I'm pregnant with my first child and I cry all the time and am always depressed?

Question

I have been married for one year now and am expecting my first child in June. I cry all the time and blame it on the pregnancy but think it's more than that. My husband works all the time and I can't hardly to get him to be romantic with me. Not sex, but the way he was when he just wanted to hold me or kiss me and I miss that. I am only 22 and am scared that if I keep up this crying I will lose my baby and I am 13 weeks pregnant, 14 on Monday. I live 2 1/2 hours away from all of my family and that makes it worse. What can I do to prevent crying, spice up some romance, and protect my baby all at the same time?

Answer 1

Hunny, this is because of your pregnancy, and you know what there is nothing wrong with it and nor are you going to hurt your baby from doing so. I had the same thing in my first trimester, same thing with my boyfriend, and my family are also 2 hours away. But trust me it will pass in time. As for your husband, you need to sit down with him and tell him exacty how you are feeling and that you are pregnant with his child and you need his support and his love.

Remember though, you need to be doing things for yourself, to make yourself feel better, so think of things that make you feel good like....relaxing in a nice warm bath tub with candles, or maybe reading a book, or knitting, whatever that thing might be and do that thing every single day. Trust me you will feel better in time.

Answer 2

I am pregnant with my third child and I can totally understand what you are saying, I think if i cry less than 5x a day I'm having a good day, even stupid songs on the radio set me off...it is your hormones and not your mental state, from experience it will settle back down again when baby gets here, then you will just be overwhelmed with emotions from having your baby...your going to be like most women, a screwball for probably the the next 12 months...ITS NORMAL!!...lol
Now as for your husband, have you talked to him about the way you feel, perhaps he doesnt know, or hes to worried to be close to you incase it leads to intercourse which he may feel might hurt the baby, (this is also what I found happened with my husband). You need to keep the lines of communiation open with him, you may be the one carrying the baby inside you, but your pregnancy will effect both of you, and you need to talk about your feelings with each other.
I hope this helps...and if you need to talk you can IM me...

Answer 3

My wife cried a lot with both our children. You have the emotions of your child; you two are literally connected. I think you should tell your husband what you just told us about what you expect from him. You shouldn't be depressed all the time. Your family and you should take turns visiting each other each week. Go to the mall, walks in the park, put on a funny movie. Try relaxing and closing your eyes and feeling the love of God and the love you have for your baby. Good luck !

Answer 4

I cried at commercials during every pregnancy. Your hormones are just crazy, & it isnt your fault. Your are both young, and your hubby might just be scared. My hubby barely touched me during the first pregnancy. He was so scared of fatherhood, scared he might hurt the baby, even when he hugged me! You need to reassure him a lot, and he needs to know you need comfort during this time. You may be worried that the stress will hurt the baby, so try to relax and do nice things for your self. You are worth it, and deserve it especially now. Be sure to talk to your doc now, and AFTER the baby comes. I love my kids soooo much, but I had terrible post-pardum depression. It is a chemical, hormonal thing, and I felt better knowing I wasnt crazy. I took antidepressnats for a while after birth, and it really helped. Good luck, and maybe check in the web for other moms-to-be in your area. We all need somone who can relate.

Answer 5

I'm so sorry that you're feeling so sad. That's terrible. Please make an appointment to see your doctor and make sure s/he really *hears* about your depression. Also, you're not going to be able to change your husband. You can talk to him and tell him how you're feeling, but if he's working to support you and your baby he needs you to support him too. So, set-up a new mom support group in your neighborhood. There is nothing better than being with other women who are pregnant and/or are new moms.

Answer 6

Just know that it is because your pregnant! I know sometimes maybe all the time your lonely...you'll get through it...Everything is going to be ok....keep yourself busy, do you work....? If not.. find friends...call family...let them know how you feel....You need people in your life...I know your feeling like a wreck. If you don't work....travel and stay with family for a while...Your baby will be fine if you have sex....men don't usually have a clue, and they think that they will hurt the baby if you have sex....let him know everything is fine...Tell your hubby you NEED him...And that just spending good quality time with him is something you NEED....That man needs to rub your feet, give you kisses and hugs...and just be there....for you....BUT don't be too hard on him, just be honest and upfront and try not to let your emotions get in the way too often....Because men feel bad, but they don't know how to make us feel better when we don't let them..... Best of luck to your family........JUST REMEMBER ITS ONLY 9 MONTHS.....AND A COUPLE OF MONTHS OF NO SLEEP...ITS DEFINITELY A TEST BUT YOU CAN DO IT.....