I mean a serious beating like breaking your nose, swelling and blacking your eyes? Would you have them arrested, forgive them, stay away from them, what would you do?
2006-11-24 13:16:05 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Especially if you didn't initiate anything and were minding your own business and this person has said repeated negative things to you like you should be better dead.
2006-11-24 13:18:05 · update #1
It was male on female
2006-11-24 13:18:58 · update #2
I was getting ready for work one morning and ironing my clothes. That is not drunk
2006-11-24 13:23:13 · update #3
I did nothing to proke a fight -- he approached me with some lame reason to start up a confrontation.
2006-11-24 13:26:45 · update #4
no drugs on my part
2006-11-24 13:32:22 · update #5
Nope, but then again I have some self respect.
2006-11-24 13:18:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
Forgiveness frees you - if you don't you're still under their control. Aside from that, it doesn't mean you won't call the police. I would stay as far away from that ''family member' asopossible, but forgiving them will actually mean you have survived it and moved on. You're no more their victim and therefore, you can live your life, apart from all that. Call the police, or social services, if you let it happen again and again, you can only blame yourself. YOU DON'T HAVE TO PUT UP WITH THAT< NO WAY!!! NO MATTER WHAT YOU MAY OR MAY HAVE NOT DONE - nobody is allowed to do that to you. Get the help you deserve! Wht should you care for the victimizer? You're stronger than him! Get out and get help, and counselling, becasue you will need to have some to heal the deep wounds in your soul.
2006-11-24 23:00:23 · answer #2 · answered by Pivoine 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let me try to put this a different way. If a stranger walked up to you on the street and beat you up, wouldn't you call the police? I hope so. Well, family members are NO DIFFERENT. No one has the right to do this to you.
In time, you can probably forgive him, but that doesn't mean you want to be around him again. I don't care that he's family. I would definitely stay away from him.
2006-11-24 21:50:59 · answer #3 · answered by Juanitamarie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Forgiveness is for your own healing. It only means that you stop tormenting yourself and obsessing about the abuser and start focusing on yourself.
Forgiveness does not mean that you allow yourself to be put in harm's way again. Yes, I most likely would press charges and stay away from them. I would keep my children away from them as well. Forgiveness doesn't mean they are off the hook for what they have done, it means that I am moving on with my life without resentment eating me up every day.
2006-11-24 21:29:33 · answer #4 · answered by teach_empathy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a Christian, I would have to forgive them eventually if they were truly sorry and never even come close to doing it again. But that forgiveness would be strictly because of principles. I would never forget, and our relationship would never be the same again. In fact, the relationship would probably end, because statistically, a man who beats a woman once is very likely to do it again. If by chance your question is actually NOT hypothetical, my heart goes out to you. I am a man, but I make no excuses or justification for any fellow man who acts that way.
2006-11-24 21:26:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It would take a long time to forgive someone who did that to me for no reason. Yes i would definately have them arrested and have a restraining order and or a protective order against him. If the bastard got anywhere close to me Id have him arrested each and every time. Stay clear away from this person.
2006-11-24 21:30:17 · answer #6 · answered by Baby boy blue 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would call the police about it immediately.
I would decide whether it was safe to be around the person and if not, I would avoid him.
I would of course be angry. However, I would try to get over being excessively angry because I prefer not to live long-term with a lot of anger. This is a form of forgiveness.
If he apologized and made amends to me and took whatever action necessary to make sure it doesn't happen again, I would offer him my forgiveness. Then I would decide whether I wanted to allow him back into my life. You are not required to do this, even if you forgive him.
2006-11-24 22:10:42 · answer #7 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Forgive, but never forget.
Take photos of your bruises and injuries. Move out of the house; your life is in danger. File an abuse report with the police. Press charges.
2006-11-24 21:53:30 · answer #8 · answered by AnnieD 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No you should not forgive him especially ifits a man who hit you, I would have him arrested cause he had no business puttinghis hands on you at all. If you do forgive him just so that you can have a clear consciens ad thats it. Other than that you should stay away from him as much as possible.
2006-11-24 21:23:16 · answer #9 · answered by Ask Ashlynn!!!! 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I would avoid them - move out, if at all possible or if they are living in your home, they can move out. Why would you put up with that behaviour just because it is a family member? Would you put up with it from a stranger? I would hope not.
I would press chargers. They have no right to treat you like that, related or not. It is simply unacceptable.
2006-11-24 21:28:38 · answer #10 · answered by Road Warrior 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call the police.
Press charges.
Put them UNDER the jail.
Forgive them.
Do not trust them. Yet.
Help them accept and deal with the consequences for their actions.
Just because a person is forgiven does not mean they do not have to pay the consequences for their foolishness.
2006-11-25 23:00:38 · answer #11 · answered by NC_Pianist 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋