my bf of 2 yrs ended our relationship earlier,i feel like my hearts been ripped in two,he says ive done nowt wrong,just wants to be free concentrate on his kids and work,i cant stop crying and cant find away to cope with the sadness and feelings i have,some how i gotta tell my son whos 14 but not got the strength,i dont want him to see that im upset.we didnt live together in one way im glad cause i think i would have found this even harder and my son would have been distraught as he really liked him.i dont know what to do
2006-11-24 13:13:33 · 19 answers · asked by shaz 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Time is a healer, I should know. Chin up sweetheart! x
2006-11-24 13:15:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Don't eat bloody chocolate!
Have you got some girlie mates you can lean on? Maybe you know some of the mums from your kids' school. Anyone you can have a chat to.
Have a look thru the web to see if relate or other counsellors can help. Your GP's surgery might be able to help with groups like gingerbread or single parent support groups etc.
Ask around but a real great start coming on here. Pat on back and just be strong for your kid. I felt pretty heartbroken when I split with my ex but I had to for my son. I had no choice. Sometimes, believe me, it works out for the best. You just have to really believe that. Trust.
2006-11-24 21:24:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I am so sorry to hear whats happened to you, I don't want to upset you more but after you have been seeing each other for 2 years, that does seem a bit of a lame excuse, especially when he says that you have done nothing wrong, maybe it's a sign that your not meant to be together. Perhaps you should try to forget about him and move on, I bet that there is already someone out there , waiting for you, you just haven' met him yet. good luck in whatever you decide to do
2006-11-24 21:30:27 · answer #3 · answered by Sierra One 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Try to think positive even if you feel like theres nothing to be positive about. Try to be a little strong for your son. Always remember theres someone worse off than you. This life is hard and we have to go threw things to make us stronger and wiser. My mum broke up with her ex after 2 an a half years and he lived with us, so i can imagine what your going threw. Im going threw hell just watching my mum go threw da same pain as you. Good luck, stay strong & try keeping busy it helps..
2006-11-24 21:30:25 · answer #4 · answered by Turkish Princess 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
.your son will help you . you must get the strength to tell him. a problem sheared is a problem half and the feeling of sadness and the pain time is a great healer over time you will move on. all the best for the future.try and be strong
2006-11-25 15:50:54 · answer #5 · answered by andrew.onions@btinternet.com 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ah honey sorry to hear that...you need some time with a girlie friend..a good chat and open your heart..then tell your son..he will be upset but at that age probably quite protective and caring of you..all the best xx
2006-11-24 22:35:00 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia K 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sooner or later your son is going to ask questions about your partner, so your best bet is to tell him straight away, he will be there to comfort you and i am sure he will be upset also, so that's when you have to step in and comfort him, concentrate on yourself and your son, it hurts like hell...been there... but time is a great healer, you may not think so now but give it time hun, sorry that your feeling like this, it feels like someones torn your heart out and put it through a mincer and it's a horrible feeling, i do feel for you.. but he has made it clear that he wants his freedom...stay friends with him, he has not done anything wrong, he just wants to be on his own, maybe in time your partner will see what a big mistake he's made and come back to you, but for now you have to stay strong for yourself and your son....bless you....x
2006-11-24 21:21:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
life takes and life gives but life goes on. grieving for a man who no longer loves you is useless.you cry all night,go off food and man generally.you think maybe he is going to come back.you even try calling him but all he says is i am sorry and don't feel bad becoz it's not ur fault.well my sister welcome to the real world. you should be grateful that things did not get worse and you have a son.he is all you have man come and go but never lose hope on finding the one. try and forget him by spending more time with ur son and tell him he is old enough to understand.REMEMBER YOU ARE SPECIAL TO UR SON AND ONE DAY TO SOMEONE WHO WILL NEVER LEAVE YOU.
2006-11-24 21:58:40 · answer #8 · answered by sky 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
remember in deliver us from eva a movie where the lady said how to get over an old man is to get under a new one,but anyway the easiest way to ease that pain is by listening to funny jokes like this one
2006-11-25 04:36:49 · answer #9 · answered by combs 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
YOU HAVE TO PULL YOURSELF TOGETHER, I FEEL YOU, I REALLY DO. YOU SHOULD ASK THE EX. TO EXPLAIN TO YOUR SON WHY HE IS WALKING AWAY, BECAUSE YOU DON'T KNOW HOW. ASK HIM IF HE WOULD HELP YOU WITH THIS. I HOPE HE WILL, IF HE REFUSE TO HELP YOU THEN YOU HAVE TO DO IT YOURSELF. AS FOR YOUR PAIN YOU NEED TO GET OUT OF THE HOUSE AND BE AROUND OTHER PEOPLE. THE MORE YOU ARE ALONE THE MORE YOU ARE GOING TO HURT. REINFORCE IN YOUR MINE THAT YOU ARE NO LONGER WITH HIM. GET THIS IN YOUR HEAD SO THAT YOU CAN EXCEPT IT.
2006-11-24 21:24:41 · answer #10 · answered by BLUE 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sorry for your bad news. If it helps there's lots of us that've split up so you're not alone.
I'd also tell your son, he's going to want to support you. It'll help you feel better.
Chin up - you'll be fine.
2006-11-25 07:13:46 · answer #11 · answered by charlie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋