Suppose your kid messed up and lost your trust. If necessary, you can ground him, but this is a kinda bad situation for the kid, who may loose his/her self esteem and can't be happy grounded, and for
the parents who love the kid. How can we help the kid so that we can trust him/her again?
2006-11-24 12:52:49 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Ah man...you gotta talk to your kids man...you gotta have that relationship or they gonna feel alienated and that leads to all kinds of bad stuff believe me...I'm not sure how old your kid is or how bad he/she messed up but just by what your saying I can tell there's not a solid relationship there...it sounds like there was a lack of trust to begin with because someone as close to you as your child just doesn't up and completely make you loose trust in them in one simple act...this sounds like it has been going on for some time...it's a bad pattern you don't want to be a part of bro...it's a one way trip to hel I guarantee it.....you gotta be there for your kids man...do stuff w/ them...be their friend...their companion...take an interest...if your kid is comfortable w/ you, he/she will be able to confide in you easier and address problems before they get blown up and a child is forced to make an adult decision because the parents weren't there for them and they screw it up big time because children simply aren't ready for adult decisions yet....then the parent looses trust and the cycle continues...sound familiar?..take it from me...your kid can be one of your greatest assets...it's up to you..
2006-11-24 13:06:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kids aren't going to lose their self-esteem just because they are grounded, if that were the case 99% of the kids out there would have no self esteem. As for the parents you get over it. Kid do stupid things everyday, you can't just not trust them forever.
2006-11-24 20:55:58 · answer #2 · answered by instilleddistress 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this a serious question asked by parents? Because it sounds more like a kid trying to find a way to get his parents to see things his way....
Punishment doesnt make a child lose their self esteem. Inconsistant parenting and lack of limitations does.
Without punishments children have no sense of right and wrong, or consequnce. They grow into out of control adults who parents failed to teach them how to function in life.
2006-11-24 21:00:48 · answer #3 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When our son was 15 he went to a football game with instructions to not leave the game till I came for him. As I wsa taking his sister to a friends, I passed him riding with someone around town. i stopped and told him to go back to the game..When he got home he ws grounded for awhile..like 3 weeks..he thought it was terrible punishment, but I explained to him that trust takes a long time to develope and once broken takes a long time to recover. When he was allowed to go places again, I told him I was gonna call or ride by to see if he was where he was supposed to be...and I did it. For several months I would either call or go by to check..not every time he was out, but just enough for him to know I meant what I said. After that he ws always great about letting me know if plans changed and would call to tell me where he was going next. if kids know you mean business they will be more inclined to stay on the right road.
2006-11-25 07:39:23 · answer #4 · answered by JIM D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being grounded is not supposed to feel good.The idea is to learn from it. If you love him punish when necessary. Just keep working with him to help him earn your trust back.
2006-11-24 20:56:01 · answer #5 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a backbone and ground them. They need to know what their boundaries are and if you are wishy washy they'll see that and take advantage.
2006-11-24 20:55:18 · answer #6 · answered by Bingo's Mommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him a controllable situation to restore confidence with something he can master
2006-11-24 20:54:39 · answer #7 · answered by koalatcomics 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋