Parents: What would you do if you found out your spouce abused your child?

Answer 1

Call the police, have him arrested, take pictures of the child, and call your lawyer immediately. Then divorce his sorry A$$, and make sure he has supervised visits only.

That being said, what kind of abuse are you talking about. Some parents think spanking is abuse...others think that a pat on the behind is abuse. If you're talking sexual abuse, or consistent abuse or physical abuse that leaves bruises or broken bones, then you have to protect your child at all costs. If you're talking about him smacking his behind or spanking, then while I personally don't condone it, it is a form of disipline that many of today's adults experienced when they were kids, and while it did instill fear in children and promoted the behavior that our parents were looking for, it tended to stop as thenchild got older and didn't create the monsters that today's society believe it did. I think that a lot of the children today need a good smack on their behinds and I have given my children a smack on the behind (one) on the rare occassion.

If this is the case, you need to discuss parenting disiplines with your spouse. The two of you obviously disagree on proper forms of disipline and if you cannot agree, this will obviously and ultimately hurt your child and you need to decide if you should walk or not. Good luck.

Answer 2

If I discovered that my spouse abused my child, I would do the following:

1. Find a safe place for me and my child to go, immediately.
2. Call the police department and make a police report.
3. Go through the steps to get a protective order in place
4. Tell my church, my family, or any one I truly trust (you need a support system behind you)
5. Get counseling as soon as possible for yourself and your child.
6. Move on and don't look back. When a person is abusive, you can't change them.

Answer 3

Take them to court, your child is more important. Plus, an abused child will need counseling especially if its sexual abuse. You will make your child suffer if the assault is just ignored and no action is taken against it. I'm not a parent but I was an incestuously abused child and my mother acted as if nothing happened (of course she made sure it didn't happen again) but that made me suffer for so many years because i thought it was my fault. Now, I don't trust either of my parents and I hope they are paid back for all they have done to me. Please, for the child's sake, do something and make sure consequences are made. Make sure you explain to the child everything no matter how young but just get help.

Answer 4

this a very serious thing and i would never put up with my mate doing this to my baby.it sounds like you need to have your mate get some counseling and never leave the baby alone with this person, because it could be a dangerous thing to do at this moment.i would let them know that you are not going to put up with this any more and if you ever see this or hear this even in the slightest that they are going to be reported to the police and they will be leaving the house emediately.tell them that they can never babysit the baby and that you are sitting up appointments for them to get counseling and that if they dont go , then they will have to live some place else.i would go to an attorney and inform him of this matter and have them know that you are initiating the couseling process for your mate and have your mate sign this.

Answer 5

Being a parent of 3 children. I would first remove my children from that individual. Then, I would report him, without letting him know of anything. Make sure that I tell my child that it was not his/her fault. Make sure that you get a restraining order against that person for your whole family. That way if he crosses the line you have proof. It's going to be a bumpy ride but who will protect your child if you don't?

Answer 6

If it is sexual abuse I would throw him out and report it to the police. I know it is hard. I am sure you probably love him, but his behavior is unacceptable. He has done irreputable harm to your child. If he is physically abusing your child this is still not acceptable. I would tell him you stop doing this now. I would also get some counseling. If it continues throw him out. Your child comes first. When you decided to have him/her you made them number 1. Remember that. My thoughts and prayers go out to you.

Answer 7

It depends on what kind of abuse, if the child was sexually abused I would go after them with a gun, and if the child was physically abused I would leave and get full custody.

Answer 8

Get the child out. And stand by the child, and support him/her .
Children have no one to count on except Parents. If you turn a blind eye , you support the abuse .

Answer 9

Leave.

Divorce him.

Get my son/daughter help.

Get him some help.

Keep him away from my children and never leave them unsupervised with him again.

END OF STORY.

I think it's very important for parents to protect their children. Even though I love my husband dearly--I am the only person who is there to protect my kids. Parenting is my first priority. I don't care how much I love someone if they hurt my children--they will no longer EVER be around them. Even if my children just accused someone--I'd keep them away from said person until it's proven otherwise. I hope this answers your question!

Answer 10

I would first call the police and then the ambulance to come to my house, the only one to be taken out in cuffs would be me! The abuser would be taken out in a body bag!