How would you feel if you befriended, say a born again cristian or any other religion and findout that...?

Question

They became your friend just to convert you and your friends to Christianity or that other particular religion?

Answer 1

I have had friends try and do that to me and while I still talk to them I am no longer good friends with them. I don't mind talk and even debate on religion but true friends accept each other for what they are rather than what they want them to be.

Answer 2

If the question is only this, then the natural answer is to feel betrayed. However, there might be other scenerios to consider.

1) Could it be that they became your friends first, and then in the process of the friendship try to share to you Christianity or their religion but being a person, it naturally felt that they were using your friendship to them and of course be hurt in the process.

2) Could it be that they sincerely wanted what they thought were the best for you,so they try to persuade you. However being a person, you might feel that they are enforcing their beliefs at the expanse of frienship on you and naturally you feel angry at them.

3) Could it be that they wanted to know you with the intention of wanting to convert you to Christianity. However in the process, they really did become your friend and so their friendship was intertwine with their zeal to convert you. So if you did not know their intention in the beginning, i could understand that when you see them trying also so hard to persuade you, it could easily be misunderstood by anybody or it could be very confusing.

There are many more scenerios that could have been. Only you know the actual situation and only God knows the heart. If you are a muslim, then only Allah knows the heart of men. The feelings that you are probably facing are confusion and then hurt and then betrayal and then anger. The question is do we judge them now and pronounce a death sentence immediately just because we do not feel good or do we find out the truth first on account of the friendship that you once thought that you had. How do we do that? Simple, go and talk to the person not in an accusatory way but as a friend. Keep an open heart and a open mind. Hear what each other had to say. Learn from the experience. Treat it as a positive thing.

Answer 3

Thank you for posting this, Muslimah. I'm Christian but I have always had a problem with the mentality of seeking converts. A common theme is 'establish a relationship before you begin to talk about Christ'... But I say, if you are establishing a friendship in the hopes of having an opportunity to convert someone, then true love is not present. You cannot truly love someone if you're thinking in the back of your mind that s/he is going to hell or otherwise 'misled'.

Answer 4

Depends on what the person was trying to convert me too. I have been persuaded to be more understanding of Atheism for example. I have had several atheist friends for example try to convert me to their views. I have been enlightened to the 'wrongs' of certain religious views and have changed my opionion on many issues because of it. Same with Wicca, I am much more understanding and tolerant because of it. I am neither Wiccan nor Atheist because of it but I am much more understanding of it all now. So, if the "Friendship" ends because you fail to convert then they were never a friend? Perhaps. But, if you thought I was in mortal danger and you did absolutely nothing to help me, should I consider you my friend? No, I don't think so.
I ate Thanksgiving dinner with devote Wiccans and maintain close friendships with folks of many beliefs. I would love to see them believe in the Jesus I follow but I am still their friend and most of them are still my friend regardless. If you are secure in your beliefs there should be no real problem.

Answer 5

O.K. we get it. You HATE us Christians. Join the crowd! Let me ask you this though. With all the religious questions you have posted in the last half hour, did you not ask these questions of this supposed freind? I don't care what you believe just don't do one of two things if you want to remain "freindly". 1) Don't try and change me! 2) Don't knock my beliefs! You've done #2 all night long. You're not a very nice person in my book!

Answer 6

Well then that person is not a true friend and you'd probably get the vibe of that at some point. And either their agenda causes the fake friendship to die out or it just does on it's own since it wasn't real.

Answer 7

Most human relationships have some sort of "agenda." When people become my friend to try to help me out, I appreciate it even when they're wrong. Even when people are really combative and verbally abusive in Yahoo Answers, I appreciate their taking the time to share. I suspect that your Christian friend actually loves you. Do you love them enough to try to convert them, if your way is better?

Answer 8

well they may have initiated the friendship with the goal of converting you, but that is not something bad, necessarily. The determination to spread what the friend feels is real is not bad, but it is kind of inconsiderate to say that the only value a friendship has is this goal of conversion; surely this friendship is also based on mutual respect/care, not only converting, though one can't blame someone for trying to spread their faith.

Answer 9

A person cannot "convert" anyone. A "born again Christian" wouldn't become your friend just to convert you.

Answer 10

i would feel used and be quite upset, but i wouldn't convert unless i actually wanted to, you see if it was a buddhist i would convert as i think it is a really nice religion, but anyway i would be very much hurt by that.