i was cutting myself...but then i told someone...?

Question

i told my teacher, i had to, i was cutting my legs and it had gotten too deep, and it hurt to walk, and we had P.E. that day, so i told him. and he went to the principal, the whole faculty knows now, and so do my parents. they had to hold me down it order to find them. now i feel like i have no one to go to, my friends get all freaked out, so i can't go to them. i used to trust my teacher, but i don't any more, i don't trust my parents, and i don't know why. typing all this out is hard for me, i...i think i might end up cutting again, and i don't want to, i want to stop, but i can't, it's like an addiction. the over all question is, how do i get myself to quit. the rubber band snapping thing doesn't work for me, i've tried it before. i know i need help, but i don't trust anybody i know to help, i wish there was something that could get rid if this feeling i have. i had thoughts of suiside, but i don't anymore, usually.

Answer 1

What you need is a good therapist. This is a compulsion, and it's an extremely dangerous one. You parents and the faculty at the school should be insisting that you talk to someone to try and sort yourself out a bit.

Answer 2

Whew!!! you have a big problem. I can just tell u my experiences with life as I am an older person. First of all your parents do want the best for u and will do whatever it takes to save u.Even if u think that they are doing an awful thing.Like putting u in counseling or even a home for cutters.Or should I say problem children. The point is u need to trust your parents and ask them to get u the best help there is for cutters. I know it has something to do with u having some much mental pain that u have a need to cut. You have to find help hon. You can't do this on your own. You and I aren't qualified to really know what u should do.You need professional help...Good luck Plus cutting leaves awful scares and you'll regret it when u get older and the mental pain has subsided.

Answer 3

I used to cut myself too. When I lived in my parents house it was like every hour I found myself with a razor in my hand. I know it's hard to stop. I still want to do it sometimes but I told my boyfriend about it and when I stay in the bathroom for a while he comes in there just in time and stops me. I used to ask myself why, but then I stoped for a minute and thought about why I do it. I realized I was unhappy and had to fix it. Just do some activities and keep yourself busy and stay away from things that make you unhappy. Tell someone you really trust and ask them to look out for you and ask them to help. If you don't trust anyone and you can't stop after you try those things, try getting professional help. It may be more than you think thats driving you to do the things you do. I know it's hard. Good luck.

Answer 4

well maybe theropy would help, i mean i dont tell my theropist everything, but i do cut, and i have since i was a teenager i am now 30 and i still do it. any time i get real mad or upset or hurt i do it, i do it on my wrist about mid arm and under my breast on the rib cage sometimes. and i would like to stop too but when i do it i really dont think about it i just do it. the last time i did it i dient even know i did it til i looked down n seen the blood. i knew i was needing someone to talk to but no one had the time to talk to me, so i guess i just did it,. and ya the rubber band dient work for me either, music helps sometimes but not all the time. in my house we only have 2 knives, and nothing really sharp to use, but i just go out n buy razors sometimes. all i can say is ur not the only one, here is a site i recently found for ppl with problems that can just talk...http://www.pale-reflections.com/signup.asp its mostly for eatin disorder ppl but it has other things too. its hard bc i am bipolar with anger issues n OCD (clean freak, control freak, and obsess over my sons safety) and I am sortof anorexic and a restrictor (means i restrict what i eat, which is very lil) but oh well, i cant help it, i wish u luck n u can take down my email which is this id with @yahoo.com attached to it, if u jsut want to chat sometimes bout whats botherin u. maybe i can be a support for u next time.

Answer 5

It's a good thing you told someone, because I was in your shoes too. Lots of people think that this is something to do for attention, but it's really an escape for some people. I think it is very good you told someone, because something much worse could've happened to you. When someone found out about me, I felt exactly the same way you felt, and some people were also inconsiderate enough to actually make fun of me, and that led me to THINKING of more cutting, but I forced myself to stop. because I would think of my friends and family. Your friends aren't freaked out from you, there just scared for you & they don't know what to say to you. Though it was wrong for your teacher to tell the rest of the faculty, but he did a good thing telling your parents.

The first step to healing is trusting your parents and your friends again. Forget your dumb-*** teacher, even though he did a right think telling, forget him, he knows enough. By trusting your friends and family again, you'll be able to tell them more, and they'll be able to help. Not trusting them will lead to no loving them enough which will lead to more cutting then ever because you'll feel hollow and love-less inside. They will suggest counseling to you, but don't get offended if/when they do, take their offer, because accepting them is the second step. And trust me, from their you'll be able to figure it out and make the right decesions.

Though it may seem right now that nothing is alright, everything's downhill, but please trust me, I know what I'm talking about, you'll get over it, the only scars that'll be left are the ones you made by cutting yourself, but everything else will heal, not fast, so be patient. Just know your not alone, because right now your family and friends are in hurt to, and they want to help you, so take their offer and love, and that'll heal the most part, the rest is going to be up to you.

Answer 6

OK, i sort of know how you feel. I told three of my closest friends that i cut and have been for a wile. I found out, through one of these friends, that one of my friends is going to tell my math teacher that i have been. I dont trust my math teacher because i dont know her because i only had her for a month or so. I also belive that she is going to tell my mom so now i will be in trouble. I would just let things go as they will and things will get better. also try doing a new activity. Karate is a relaxing because you can take stress out on a person or a bag. Yoga is the most relaxing thing you can do because it concentates on your breathing. Horses are known to be thereputic and gental giants. try taking horse back riding. also take a shower WITH OUT RAZORS IN THE SHOWER.

Answer 7

If you don't trust either your teachers or your parents, you should seek help from some specialists. Your friends clearly can do nothing. You've noticed this addiction of yours, and this is a good place to start with. But please try to listen to me this once: When your teacher told other staff members at school, it was necessary that s/he did it. In order to help you, others at school had to know about your wound, so did your parents. They did it to protect you and to show you they were concerned and worried. Please try to understand why they did it and never stop asking them for help. OK? Best wishes.

Answer 8

calm down OK my friend was like that so i know how you fill get you a diary and write down all the stuff you are mad about and as far as your friends well I'm your friend for right now OK now listen get you a diary then put some coco butter on your legs for your sores will go away now tell your parents that you want to go to a new school to start off fresh . write in your diary everyday then soon as your diary is full give it to your mother or father ether one will work then your parents will try there best to make you happy and trust me it always work you will see a change in your life

Answer 9

Your teacher did what was right. He is trying to help you, and so are your parents and friends. The place to go for help is your parents. You need to tell them you want help, and if this only happened recently, I assume they are looking into getting you help right now.

Your parents love you and they want to help. Trust them ... just trust them. There is no one else you can trust more than your parents.

Answer 10

Once you told your teacher did they get help for you? Cutting is an addiction and it will be very hard for you to quit on your own, but you need to ask for help. Do you have a counselor at your school? You should ask the counselor to put you in touch with somebody that is trained to help you deal with the issues that make you want to cut yourself. I posted a link that has some ideas for alternatives to cutting but please trust somebody enough to let them know you want to quit but can't.