Parents, do you think it's fair to have expectations of your children when you forced life on them?

Answer 1

I don't think so, the only reason we expect them to do well in school, and such is only so that they can become successful adults because we always want what is best for our children.

Answer 2

While it may be your opinion that parents force life on children, it is not everyone else's.
You are not a mindless, spiritless, soulless 'thing' that can have life forced on it.
It is just as much your decision to be alive as it is your parent's decision to offer you a home.
Try thinking for yourself and what you want out of the life you are living now, no matter who forced or not forced it on you.
Prepare to be in your body for a few decades. Soon, you will leave your parent's home and be required to make one for yourself. How well equipped will you be to do that?
Will you have the things you want, go to places you want, do things you want? You will need personal power to accomplish these things.
This personal power comes from your achievements NOW. From what you learn NOW. If these are the expectations your parents have of you, then these are expectations you should have of yourself.
IF you want a life, that is.. if not, of course, you can always just blame others for forcing things on you and not get what you want.
Your Choice.

Answer 3

You sound like a child yourself.

Every parent has expectations for their children because otherwise children wouldnt progress into functional members of society.

Well rounded, good people dont just 'happen'. Theyre raised by parents who expected something better from them.

There is no other option for living, your parents make you and give birth to you, and are responsible for making you into the right person. Once you're grown you're life is your own responsiblity, you can do with it what you want.

Answer 4

What does that mean: when you forced life on them? You know the opposite of that: . . . when you aborted them. Nobody has life forced on them, only given an opportunity to live. And of course it's appropriate to have expectations of your children. To not have expectations is to be indifferent to their successes and failures. Is that healthy parenting? Go figure!

Answer 5

life is not "forced" on children. it's a gift that everyone is blessed with - parents and children alike. parents are expected to raise their children so they can function properly in society. so, it is fair to set up expectations of some sort. completely fair.

Answer 6

This sounds like more of the flower child, peace/love, liberal crap of today. Our children made a choice to be here before they were born and even if they didn't they are here. Therefore we have to do what is in their best interest and the interest of others. Every child just about thinks something their parents do is unfair or wishes they could be one of the other kids. It just varies from child to child. People need to learn that someone always has it worst than them.

Answer 7

We ALL have expectations expected of us don't we?
To think that you shouldn't just because you didn't "choose" to be here is ludicrous. With that mindset...none of us chose to be here. And if none of us had expectations then we would not be very productive would we? We would just do as we please with no responsibility. But.....when we pulled up to the gas station the attendant wouldn't be there to turn it on...she's doin what she wants. Want to buy food? Sorry the manager of the store decided he didn't want to open. McDonalds sound good? Are you kidding? Run by teenagers who have all gotten weary of expectations.
Hope you know how to hunt, fish, make fire and purify your water...oh and make your own clothes because the Asians are tired of providing them for you!

Answer 8

None of us exactly asked to be here. For myself, it seems that life is better than death and I'm really quite glad to be here.
Total lack of expectations leads to a miserable life. It's because we care about our children that we expect certain things from them.

Answer 9

if your going to expect something from your child, make sure you can help them meet your expectations, example: if you expect your child to have excellent grades at school so they can enroll into a great college, you better make sure you are there to tutor them, otherwise you may be pushing your child to failure instead.

As a parent myself I do understand you want the best for your child, but you wrote " when you force life on them", remember that your child didnt ask to be born, and if you want to justify for something as in the way you think of your child and the expectations you got for them, then you have the wrong mentality.

You can only encourage, and advise your child, but you should'nt force your child into anything, it may seem harmless to you, but it may mean the world to your child.

Answer 10

Are you serious? Yes it's more than fair. It's parents responsibility to guide their children and help them grow into responsible adults.