Thanks for cheking my question out!!!! I think that I might like my cousin more than family!!! Lately I have been dreaming about him, and thinking about him non-stop!!!! I fantasice about me & him...........Well u get the picture!!!! Is that wrong to just think about it, or should I stop!!!! I mean I haven't told anybody, and nobody knows but me!!!! I really need help, because somewhere in my gut I know that this is just not right!!!
Love, Kiki
2006-11-24 11:43:49 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hello:
Well first off, you can't go there. But you know that, he is your cousin.
Second, girls have feelings about guys they can't have all the time. In high school I was practically in love with one of my science teachers, who was married. I even had a boyfriend at the time. Even though I knew we were never going to have a relationship or anything, I always daydreamed about it.
But eventually I just got over it. And my boyfriend made fun of me for a long time about it.
I would suggest try to stop thinking about it, find some other cute guy to think about, and pretty soon you'll forget all about having romantic feelings for your cousin.
I hope this helps and good luck!
2006-11-24 11:49:13 · answer #1 · answered by Jeanne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I mean we all have fantasies some more Freudian than others. I guess being sexually attracted to family isn't that bad as long as you don't act on those feelings. It's the kinda thing to comes with a lot of baggage and name calling. Think about it family functions come along after you guys break up and it's really awkward, or worse your parents find out and freak out, or you decide to have kids and they don't turn out right ( even though that might be a myth). Basically it's ok to dream but you sound pretty enough to date guys that you aren't related to.
2006-11-24 19:49:46 · answer #2 · answered by LoveLeighe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah that is strange. i am not a christian but the whole incest thing for me isnt christian morals. its all about keeping the species alive. if you hook up with someone in the same family then you dont spread your genes and the human race dies off faster. so having sexual dreams about your cousin is bad. it might be because you need a guy and he just happens to be the guy you thnink of because you care about him and love him as family and now your instincts say you want a man as a partner so he is your first thought because he is close to you. just go find yourself a guy and your cousin dreams will stop.
2006-11-24 19:48:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is ok to have fantasies, just as long as you do not carry out all your fantasies. If you like your cousin in a sexual way, that is kind of well .,,,, sick. It is ok to like your cousin and want to be around him if he is fun and funny as a good family member. You don't want incestuous stuff. That is just not right and that alone should keep those other ideas out of your head. You should find the qualities you like in him and look for those qualities in someone you can have as a partner in life. You may be just finding those things you really want in a partner in him and you have to sort it out and save it for another part of your life later. That would be fine.
2006-11-24 19:51:18 · answer #4 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah that happens but i wouldn't go much far than dreaming it. You both are cousins and it could be very possible he doesn't feel the same way too. So i would take it as a crush which is harmless and go on and find someone else who makes you feel just as giddy inside as he does.
2006-11-24 19:48:26 · answer #5 · answered by madamoiselle_2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it's not right, dont let your feelings take control over you. Its ok it is just a phase your going through. Try your best not to think so much about him and dont spend a lot of time together, well good luck.
2006-11-24 19:47:11 · answer #6 · answered by ~*mwah*~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi Kiki: well you can enjoy relatives in a simple way maybe
they need some counciling of course were sychologist
could help out with it. get advice soon http://www.familysychologist.com
2006-11-24 19:54:27 · answer #7 · answered by toddk57@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion ....I would try to get it out of my mind to like him like him but maybe you just like him because hes your cousin...if you still have this problem I would tell someone like your mom or and older sister or brother or even a close friend.
2006-11-24 19:46:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it isn't totally incest, BUT it is pretty sick. How do you think he would react if he found out, and the rest of your family, or your friends I think you should stop before something BAD happens.
2006-11-24 19:49:28 · answer #9 · answered by Biohazardous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its ok but is he more than ur 3rd cousin cuz by then the blood line runs really thin and does he have the same last name? if not than its legal but i dont know about ethical
2006-11-24 19:47:44 · answer #10 · answered by Princess A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋