Me and ma boifriend have been goin' out 4 a long time. But I told him I'm a jealous type person and if he hugs another gurl I would be upset. He hug another gurl twice and when ma best friend caught him he gave her a some money so she wouldn't tell. What should I do? I don't wanna break up with him but I do. I'm confused.
2006-11-24 11:41:45 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First, who's that other girl? A friend of his or who is she? You have to find out first before doing anything rash.
He gave her money so that you wouldn't get upset but it's not a good way to get out of this either.
I think you should just calm down first, don't breakup with him just yet. I think if you get too jealous, he might even decide to leave you, so be careful.
2006-11-24 11:45:38 · answer #1 · answered by Reykja 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Jealously is the enemy of love as is dishonesty.
When you put jealous expectations on a person as a condition of the relationship, the most honorable person would end the relationship, the average person would hide the behavior you wish to control.
Jealousy is not a personality type, it a form of insecure, controlling and destructive behavior. Many people are addicted to jealousy and mistake it for passion, many cultures teach that it is love. It is neither.
If you truly want to work on yourself and have healthy relationships, you'll find a way... or you'll keep on hurting yourself with destructive behavior.
Best of luck from a recovering jealous person.
2006-11-24 19:49:23 · answer #2 · answered by teach_empathy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm.. all i can say is that you should try to know the reason why he hug that girl, try to know what's his relationship with her......so that you wont be so confused. dont be afraid to ask.........and maybe the reason why he gave a money to your friend is because he dont want you to know and that you will not argue about it but you said that you already told him that you don't want him hugging other girls but what if that girl is just a friend? ....its hard to judge right ahead so just ask him and if he gets mad then that means his guilty of something and if you feel like his cheating on you should make up your mind , but if he admit it and say the reasons why and ask for your forgiveness then you can say that he still love you...IF HE ADMIT IT!!!..but if not...uuummm!! you should know what to do..i'm not saying that what i said is right it's just what i feel....but you can decide..
2006-11-24 20:01:26 · answer #3 · answered by nobody 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, if you don't stop being so jealous, he will leave you before you can even break up with him.
The confidence you have in yourself and in this relationship lacks maturity. Suggest you just have a good time and learn to love yourself.
2006-11-24 19:46:04 · answer #4 · answered by Syman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's kinda hard... I know that I can be jealous, and possessive... and that a hug isn't always just a hug.
But sometimes it is... and its good for you, if your man can have female friends. He can get advice and suggestions on things you might want or like, places you might want to go, things you might want to do.
Surprises for you - you know?
Don't know why he gave money to her not to tell - that's weird... I assume you trust your lady friend.
Talk to him - and respect that maybe he needs lady's to confide in and ask questions of...
And if he's nailing them - dump him.
Just my .01
-dh
2006-11-24 19:46:47 · answer #5 · answered by delicateharmony 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very tough situation. I think you should get rid of him. If he has to hug other girls besides his own gf then he doesnt deserve you anyway. Good Luck!
2006-11-24 19:45:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit being jealous,, then ask him why he hugged the other girl?? But don't get angry,,!
2006-11-24 19:43:24 · answer #7 · answered by kitkatish1962 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a toughy....Honestly if I told a guy that I wouldnt like him doing something and then caught him, red handed, doing it....yeah i would break up with him....thats disrespectful
2006-11-24 19:44:52 · answer #8 · answered by iadoremarilyn86 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he gave her money he must be doing something wrong
2006-11-24 19:43:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
look hun, i hate to be rude, but you need to get over yourself. seriously. people do these kinds of things. and if you are telling your man what to and not to do. he will probably end up leaving you cause you are controlling....
2006-11-24 19:43:55 · answer #10 · answered by blondie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋