Okay, so this guy in my history class is pretty awesome. He is a basketball player, he is into music, he is smart, and also quite funny. But whenever somehow he gets brought up in conversation all of my friends...they are always saying "he is SUCH a dork!! he is annoying!!"
He seems to show interest in me although we have only known eachother for about 4 weeks. but he does stuff like turn in my papers. get my books. and he also tickles me and writes on my hands. but i mean. they are my BEST BEST friends and everything goes through them. so im on the fence. also he has walked me to my next cless 1 time cuz we were in a good conversation. but i told 2 of very best friends (who are not very judegemental) that i liked him and one said he was great and the other said he is pretty cool. well. anything would just be fantastic...thanks!! (hope yall had a good thanksgiving)
2006-11-24 11:35:34 · 14 answers · asked by englefontingle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He sounds like a genuinely nice guy who really cares about you. Plus, your two non-judgemental friends both think he's cool. The other friends that called him a dork may not think that he's boyfriend material for them (maybe they are more into your traditional jock type), but that doesn't mean that he's not right for you.
Picking out who you like is a very personal decision, so unless they said this guy is a total jerk because he cheated on his last girlfriend, or something, then you can't drop him just because of their opinion. It'd be just as silly as you not buying a dress you really really like because one of your girlfriends doesn't like that type of dress at all. They have their own lives to live, and so do you.
Plus, consider this, what if this guy WAS kind of dorky, but then he met you and liked you so much that he's stepped up to being the awesome guy that he is now? Wouldn't that mean a lot, that you've had that much of an impact on someone?
Either way, even if he was a little dorky, who cares, if he's a really nice guy that you enjoy spending time with and he's decent looking, you should give this thing a shot.
Best of luck.
2006-11-24 11:48:35 · answer #1 · answered by yishor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL. Why do your friends have to act like such losers (excluding your non-judgmental friends)? If this guy's a dork, is that going to make any difference in five years, in 10 years. There's an old song by Cheap Trick called "I Want You to Want Me". Anyone that's ever longed for another can relate to those words. He wants you. You want him. It doesn't get much better than that. Just casually laugh off your friends' remarks and they will eventually wish that they have what you have.
2006-11-24 11:51:51 · answer #2 · answered by dyditty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a lot of guys who are quite intelligent do come off sounding quite "dorky" in converstations because, we don't wanna talk about who's doing what and dating who etc, he proberly isn't comfortable around your friends, and if you let us a lot of smart guys can infact be very funny, and ur friends proberly put him off in a way because he proberly knows what they say about him so he feels worse talking to them tries hard to not sound the dork, and does it worse, when you want to talk about things that reqire a lot of brains and people don't understand their intiall recation is tell them to shut up or call them names because they can't keep up with the converstation easily, so they feel butted out, but a friend i have once said "ignore all the nay-sayers, and go where you will and do what u please" their ur friends they have an imput of course but ultermatly its gotta be u that makes your choices, u neva know if your going out with him ur friends might start to like him, if they make him feel more welcome.
2006-11-24 11:48:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless your friends can say that he is evil in some way, ignore their comments. I mean, if they know he has been abusive to former girlfriends, raped someone, etc., then they have a point. If not, it's just their opinion.... and they aren't the one considering dating him, are they?
If you like him, tell them you like him and what I said. If they are really your friends, they will understand and want you to be happy.
Best Wishes,
Sue
2006-11-24 11:39:07 · answer #4 · answered by newbiegranny 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you like someone you really shouldnt care about what your friends think of the person all that matters is if you like the person if you dont give him a chance you dont no what you might be missing he could b the love of your life but if you dont give him a chance you will never no good luck
2006-11-24 11:42:09 · answer #5 · answered by Jeannie T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my pal is a geek lover. Im a hottie lover. unusually, we usually swap, on the grounds that they are all interior the comparable cuteness point, in basic terms diverse grouping. in basic terms like jazz and pa, the two cool, in basic terms diverse. so the respond is confident. it may ensue.
2016-10-13 01:22:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about teaching the wonderful guy some social skills,, he might be acting that way cuz he is shy,, as for your friends,, PFFFT!!
2006-11-24 11:39:12 · answer #7 · answered by kitkatish1962 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How 'bout "wonderful geek".
That's how I like 'em!
If he's a great guy and you both like each other, who gives a crap what kind of label your friends want to put on him.
2006-11-24 11:42:47 · answer #8 · answered by Imperfect 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
most girls go for jerks, which is probably why your friends are not too fond of this guy. go with your instincts, otherwise, you'll find you will always make decisions based on what others think and never be happy.
2006-11-24 11:39:21 · answer #9 · answered by Nikki J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That should be for you to decide, if he is like you say he is then who cares what anyone else thinks, even your closet friends.
2006-11-24 11:40:45 · answer #10 · answered by SWAY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋