Whenever my sister comes home from college we fight. My mom can't stand it. I just always feel that my sister is trying to let me know how much smarter she is than me. I am pretty popular so I go out every night to do something. But I was home all Thanksgiving, day and night. My parents just flipped out on me for being out too much and treating them badly. I didn't want to go shopping with them today because my mom threw a fit this morning. My parents accused me of living a trashy and unclassy lifestyle, but I honestly don't think so. I just like being out, it's not trashy. My parents accused me of doing drugs and drinking a lot, but I don't really do that stuff. Now I can't go out at all for the rest of thanksgiving vacation. What do I do? I'm so upset. I wish I knew how to approach them.
2006-11-24 11:32:58 · 10 answers · asked by lovegivingadvice 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Really, the only way you can get through to them is if you sit them down as adults and talk about it. When you do this, don't revert to the standard arguing with what they say. Remain calm, listen to them, have them listen to you. If they argue with you just remind them you need a turn to speak too and continue. If they can't be adults about it, then your family is too much like mine. If that's the case, I'm sorry, but it's a lost cause...just finish growing up and move out.
2006-11-24 11:37:15 · answer #1 · answered by Gray 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Abide by their rules against going out for a while. When everyone's calmed down, try telling your parents that you just like to go out. When they lift the ban, call them often and tell them what you did during and after the time you're out. Start building some trust between you and your parents. For your sister, she might be acting that way because she felt you were treated better by your parents than she was. Maybe she's trying to boost her own self-sesteem by finally having something that you don't. That's just an idea though. When you sense a fight coming on, stop the conversation and just let her have her way. It's better than you two fighting where in the end, no one wins.
2006-11-24 19:43:25 · answer #2 · answered by spunkymelon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you answered your own question. even though you might not be drinking or doing drugs, going out night after night leaves you with too much time on your hands. you didnt deny treating them badly which says you must feel you do as well. staying home a day dont rewrite your record of going out all the time. and when givin the chance to go shopping with them , you didn't do it. your sis on the other hand is in college and all. What are you doing with your life besides hanging out? a job would be great to have and use up some of the energy that you sould like you need to do.
2006-11-24 19:39:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, how old are you? No child/young adult should be going out every night, no matter what. Regardless of "don't really" do drugs. That doesn't sound definite. Your sister appears to be insecure, jealous and immature. Show your maturity and try harder not to take the bait and argue with your sister or parents. When they are in a good mood or perhaps at a family meal, or one parent at a time, try talking to them in a calm, reasonable, mature manner. If you have to, write something down on paper and practice or write them a letter and hand it to them... expressing your feelings and concerns.
2006-11-24 19:39:54 · answer #4 · answered by nanny4hap 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kill them all, then you won't have to worry. J/K Running away won't solve anything, neither will argueing with them.
You didn't say how old you are or what types of friends you have. Maybe it is your friends and the things your parents hear about. But like most of the others said maybe if you sit down with them and talk with them, who knows what might happen.
2006-11-24 19:42:49 · answer #5 · answered by trollwzrd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just stay home and make the best of things the way they are, who knows you might enjoy yourself. and if you can do that you will really freak them out, have lots of fun with it, and see what happens, if they say something negative to you just laugh it off or act like you didn't hear it. be real nice, kill them with kindness. come on, I dare ya!
2006-11-24 19:37:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well id try to sit them down and tell them shame on them for thinking so low of their child...as far as ur sister i think she may be jealous of u... if shes gotta try and throw it in ur face then shes trying to hard to make herself feel better.... tell ur parents ur young and dont wana die alone in a room for the rest of ur life. just bc ur having fun dont make it trash...
2006-11-24 19:49:15 · answer #7 · answered by celestialshorty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
along time ago my parents used to accused me of crap! Then, they would ground me too. I think they just want you to stay home.
2006-11-24 19:36:35 · answer #8 · answered by Apple 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SIT DOWN WITH THEM AND TALK IT OUT!!!
2006-11-24 19:35:41 · answer #9 · answered by StaR'in 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
run away.
2006-11-24 19:33:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋