He was the first person I met in college so I've known him for 4 years. We are really good friends. He's always been that super ego boosting guy that always says how hot I am etc. and tried for 2 years to get me to hook up with him but he was just my friend. We crossed the line 2 years ago and had sex (haven't since). We tend to make-out when we go out he calls me babe, or baby or lover pretty often when we are on the phone. recently I decided I really like him and from how he treats me, I thought he felt similarly. I told him how I felt and he just kind of said I don't really feel the same way let's talk about it later. Well I brought it up again but he really jdidn't say much of anything so we tacitly agreed to ignore it. He still treats me almost exactly the same when we go out- the pet names and holding hands, stoking my leg etc, because that's how he treated me before...it's not awkward when we hang out, but I always go home wishing we were more than friends.
2006-11-24 11:30:17 · 19 answers · asked by tulane2007 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
P.S. I'm not hounding him, I told him once a month ago and I haven't talked to him about it again, we hang out like nothing ever happened. Also, I know he's watching out for my feelings because after we went out last night I invited him in to watch a movie (which is something we do a lot...so nothing out of the ordinary) but he said that he shouldn't because it might lead to "inapproriate touching." Clearly not the answer I wanted to hear (especially since there had been a good amount of inapprpriate touching (from him) while we were out...Oh and we're 22 if that makes a difference in anyone's answer.
2006-11-24 11:37:04 · update #1
Let it go for now.
Be his friend
You'll probably marry him in 5-10 years from now
;)
2006-11-24 11:41:18 · answer #1 · answered by its me 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is one of the questions that I usually answer, show him ur boobs, but it seems too intricate for that. (It seems you already have)
I'm sure it's possible for you to carry on as friends, you should search it in ur heart to find a truer answer. If you plain can't have him, at least draw the line on gettin' the milk w/out buyin tha cow stuff. Friends are friends are friends, and lovers are lovers, keep a defined line between the two. It will make you feel stronger, things will be clear, (a clear path is easier to follow) and it very well could "call" his hand and change his attitude.
If that fails, show him ur boobs to M.C. Hammer can't touch this.
2006-11-24 11:42:43 · answer #2 · answered by NIGHTSHADE 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 12:07:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's said he isn't feeling the same way and doesn't want to take things beyong a friendship, there is no reason for you to mull it over and over in your head wondering what could have been and all that. I know it might sting a bit, and I might sound harsh, but it's best to move on for your own sake. If he's a good friend, don't let a friendship be ruined over this.
2006-11-24 11:36:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you do ?
I think the guy has been pretty decent and not led you on.... he's told you now twice that he's not interested in having a relationship. It's a bit cruel that he's continued doing the relationship-ish stuff, but what can we say: he's male, he's clueless.
The answer is pretty clear: you've informed him that you're interested, as of right now he's not, and so the ball is in his court. Put any hopes on rest until he's informed you that he's changed his mind. Any guy worth having should be able to inform a girl that he likes her... don't sell yourself short by continuing to pursue him in a relatinoship sphere. Wait for him to come to you !
2006-11-24 11:36:26 · answer #5 · answered by lelia6570 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you have two choices deal with him just being your friend, and move on and find someone who likes you like that. Or end the friendship all together and move on. If he is not interested there is really nothing you can do to make him want more. Sorry. Good luck and God bless****
2006-11-24 11:35:18 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a fun "make out kind of friend" to him. Most of us have had one of those. No serious feelings but fun to go out with. Let it go and take it for what it is. He will probably find you more attractive if you act a little less interested. Good luck to ya!
2006-11-24 11:35:30 · answer #7 · answered by Jenn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should ignore him and move on with your life and sooner or later he is going to start seeing you the way he used to when He wanted to hook up with you. If that don't work then maybe you aren't meant for each other.
2006-11-24 11:37:16 · answer #8 · answered by Adrian R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey don't listen to the one comment that said offer sex don't do that that will just make the boy seem like you want it to bad and your willing to do that which you shouldn't because its not good what you should do is give it time if it don't work out then he is not the prince charming that is yours so just wait for your future husband whether its him or not
2006-11-24 11:38:01 · answer #9 · answered by :) 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
youre in a weird situation there. you seriously need to talk with him and set the ground rules of what you guys are. youre friends but flirting and touching yet not together? clariy with him the labeling of your so-called relationship.
2006-11-24 11:34:15 · answer #10 · answered by funky_homosapien 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋