Why is it so hard to let someone go that you don't really want to be with?
2006-11-24 11:11:04 · 12 answers · asked by Amiditei 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hello:
I know how hard it is to still love someone but know that you can't be with them. An ex-boyfriend and I were so much in love, but our relationship failed when he cheated on me in attempts to make me jealous. Afterwards I was so hurt, and even though he told me it didn't mean anything that he was just trying to make me jealous, I had to end the relationship.
For a long time I was so incredibly sad. He would call me, and I would have to not answer the phone because I knew he was calling to try to get me back, and I knew that when I heard his voice that I would invite him over just to be with him.
After time I was able to talk to him and remind him that we couldn't be together. And finally the feelings I had for him slowly went away.
I know it's so hard to want to be with someone in your heart, but know in your head that it's not something you should do. But hang in there, it will get better.
Proof? I'm in a new relationship and I'm much happier than I was before.
I hope this helps, and good luck!
2006-11-24 11:18:14 · answer #1 · answered by Jeanne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of reasons. Guilt is a big one for me, especially if they are nice and they really want to be with me. I don't want to hurt anyone. If it's someone who I really like but I know they aren't good for me, then it's hard to rip myself away just because my emotions run deep. It sucks, there's no way around it. But often I tell myself that there will be someone else around the corner, and I'll soon forget about that person.
2006-11-24 11:15:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because it is so hard to understand why someone would just quite a relationship when all it takes is a lil work. And what awful thing happended that you makes you just so easy to leave. Been there done that, doing it again. I know... IT HURTS. But we're strong and we'll make it.
2006-11-24 11:15:17 · answer #3 · answered by notsoperfectgentleman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you grow attached. Perhaps you could reevaluate your reasons for not wanting to be with them to determine their overall validity.
2006-11-24 11:13:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
despite not wanting to be with them for some reason now, you've already formed bonds with them and shared an intimate relationship. so, it just is.
2006-11-24 11:12:52 · answer #5 · answered by -- 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
insecure.you would rather be a couple than alone you should learn to love yourself a bit more then you wouldnt have so much doubt
2006-11-24 11:22:39 · answer #6 · answered by sarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cause you love them,and not sure if your making the right decision!!! But go with your gut its usually right !!
2006-11-24 12:51:16 · answer #7 · answered by troble # one? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes I feel the same way. When you figure it out tell me.
2006-11-24 11:13:59 · answer #8 · answered by Sandy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it could be many things holding you there. but you have to remember are you happy or you just there to make things work.
You need to make yourself happy first.
2006-11-24 11:15:09 · answer #9 · answered by dynamite 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cuz u miss the freindship
2006-11-24 11:12:38 · answer #10 · answered by native,pride 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋