After receiving some enlightening answers to my previous question I am asking another and expanding info about myself. For the past... 10 years I've almost exlusively had women as friends. Out of 10 of my closest friends (the ones you laugh and cry with and steal and die for): 9 are women. Now... this is not supposed to be some sort of self-examination , but I'm curious to hear what others have to say. Because maybe somehow this relates to the way I relate to women. In the previous question I asked is it wrong/weird that I always (and I mean ALWAYS) feel in "love" with a girl after I'm in a relationship. After reading through the previous answers I realize that part of it is due to the fact that I was never TRULY satisfied with the relationships I had and currently have with my gf's. But I wonder if it's being surrounded by women (I'm the eternal teddy bear guy: women cry on my shoulder and tell me stuff) that is skewing my view of relationships. Anybody with similar problems?
2006-11-24 10:46:56 · 12 answers · asked by Theseus J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It'th good to have male and female friendth.
2006-11-24 10:48:32 · answer #1 · answered by The Anthwer Man 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a friend with benefits in high school. It seemed great then, but now that I'm older and looking back on life, I really wish I hadn't. I'm not super obsessed with numbers or anything, but it just seemed like a wasted one. Well, most of them were wasted numbers. Anyway, I say, get a vibrator and wait.
2016-05-22 23:10:23 · answer #2 · answered by Annette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you enjoy all the attention you get from women & feel close to them. So you have problems commiting & being in love w/ just 1 girl cuz you need to be surrounded by lots of them to feel good about yourself & feel important. Meanwhile your girlfriend at the time probably isn't too impressed that you're spending your time & attention w/ women other than her - who is supose to be your main lady during the time your dating. How would you feel if your girlfriend only hung around guys? Not too comfortable about it - huh? You need guys to balance yourself out and to have fun doing guy things. Being around all these women if it is stricktly friendships and nothing else ever than you're starting to see all women as friends & not partners. Do you like these women as girlfriends? Do you feel like one of the girls? Perhaps do you like guys as partners instead of girls. Sorry if that was way out there, I haven't got a good grip on who you are.
2006-11-24 10:56:13 · answer #3 · answered by tanner 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's bad to have female friends. In fact, I think that the best kind of romantic relationships are with people that you are also friends with. If you get married to a person, looks will fade, but your friendship can last forever.
I think being a friend with girls will help you to understand girls better so that you can be a more sensitive boyfriend and husband in the future. However, your future girlfriend/wife might not approach you because she might think you are already involved with one of your girl friends.
2006-11-24 10:51:36 · answer #4 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Risks: you might fall in love with her, you might see her more than a friend, if you ever get with her, and if you decided to break up, you lose the friendship as well as the relationship
benefits: she can share with you all the girl things and girl feelings so you can understand women better, you can also get to know her more and be good friends with her, if you two both decided to get together and date, you will be well-acquainted with each other
2006-11-24 10:49:46 · answer #5 · answered by leazngurl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well--if you are not gay then the benefit of your having only female friends is pretty obvious. You must do pretty good with your sex life. Perhaps you pick woman friends because you feel you want to make it with as many woman as you can.
non benifit is that all the guys must really think you are gay and maybe most of the woman think so also. if you are gay thats fine--but if you are not then it creates a problem---anyway good luck to you
2006-11-24 10:55:18 · answer #6 · answered by willtdn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why aren't more of your friends guys? Do you tend to see guys as most women do? Perhaps that's why you have so many women friends...the women see you as someone that thinks like they do...
There should be balance in friendships...a number of male and female friends for either sex of person...I know a lot of women who primarily have men as friends...they tend to be more jealous and suspicious of other women, than a woman who has plenty of female friends....they are also seen more as "one of the guys" by a lot of their male friends....
If you are content with your friendships as they are...that's fine...but you're not getting enough of the male perspective on life and women (imo) if you don't have male friends to share things with as well as female...
2006-11-24 10:51:04 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one thing your girlfriend will be selfconcious and always compare herself to your friends, trying to see if she is good enough. she might not say that she does, but she will. And you might start to develop chemistry for one of your friends and there isnt anything you are going to be able to do about because you are in the friend zone. i think it would be better to still be friends with them but be a little distant and find some guy buddies
2006-11-24 10:53:57 · answer #8 · answered by **baby~doll** 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No problems here most of my friends are girls actually.
2006-11-24 10:56:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are benifits as you can go out with girls and be more self confident about yourself .. but you should think more about making a gf
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2006-11-24 10:52:48 · answer #10 · answered by andrew black 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋