dating when your 15, 20, 25.....?

Question

why in highschool if you like someone you go out with them, and you cant go out with anybody else. i know its called cheating, duh, but why cant people just go on dates with guys to get to know them? and then when they really like someone alot and know all about them they become boyfriend&girlfriend. isnt that how it is when your older.. like in your 20s? or is that called casual dating..talking.. seeing them..or what. when do things change in our dating world.. why do people gotta be so serious in a relationship why cant they just date till they find a good guy. am i right? tell me what you think please
thanks

yea cause like wouldnt you wanna be their friend and get to know them first before you get all serious?

iv'e never had a boyfriend, and i think thats why. people are to serious about it. they cant just date casually and go with it. they gotta be BF & GF right from the start. ugh

Answer 1

I'm sorry... uh... who says you can't go out on dates with whomever you like? As long as you are not married and you are careful and you are honest with whomever you go out with, you can and should date as you please.

Answer 2

Well, being almost 22, I date different girls often, but I date one at a time. If I don't find them interesting enough, I date another. I never date multiple women at once, as such a thing may cause a horrible mess. As unfortunate as it is, to do such a thing would earn me the label "playa," although some individuals already think I am. I've only had one really serious relationship, and after seeing how badly that went, I figure it's good to keep it more casual for awhile. When the right one comes along, I may get serious again. Until then, I'm not going to worry about getting intimate. I have plenty of time to get there still. Teenagers just like to rush things while a true adult likes to do the right thing, even if it takes longer.

I probably should mention that I have chosen one girl for now, because she's given me every reason to like her and none not to. It's still not incredibly serious, but I still say she's my girlfriend, though it's much different than you'd be used to seeing in high school.

Answer 3

You may want to read "I kissed dating good bye" by Joshua Harris It is very insightful and I wish I'd known of the alternatives back when I was dating. Dating now a days is about feelings and not about commitments and self sacrafices that come in true loving relationships. You only need to make friends. If you can be real friends without the physical stuff then go from there.. Read the book it is really good...

Answer 4

you're absolutely right, but for some reason young people gravitate toward the one-on-one relationships very quickly. I don't know which category you fall in, but if you're one of those who wished they could date instead of have a steady, I would suggest making it clear. One of the things about young people is that they love the drama & for some stupid reason, someone who wants to 'date' instead of have a boyfriend suddenly becomes a slut, when it's not necessarily the case. Really too bad, I'm with you --- dating is much better. Like another individual on Yahoo Answers told me once,,,, dating is like trying on jeans. The first pair may not quite be what you were looking for, and you may need to try on several before you find one that fits you perfectly.

Answer 5

It seems like you have a very nice research about the dating styles in different ages. I'd agree with you, but the whole idea of dating is to get the girls into bed. Like, how can you explain a guy in such short notice, how can you know if he is not just pretending to be someone he is not. And from my point of view how can I know if a girl is not pretending to be something she's not. So, no matter what the age is its always because they are trying to use you. Its nice that you are probably good hearted and trying to find good things in it but it actually is not you are thinking of.

The reason guys usually don't get married with girls, but keep them as their girl friends, because they don't want to share their property with them. If a guy gets married with a girl then the state will force him to share his property and everything with her, more over even if he gets devorce he'd have to give her a huge part of share. Can't you see, its not the love that we are trying to distribute, its just sex.

So, this is the world where are suppose to be pretending everything. And if you are willing to pretend then enter here and follow the styles, and eventually get use to it and I can assure you that they will love and care for you until you'll have the kind of physical attraction. When you'll become old and you wouldn't be sexy looking they will throw you out. And if you are not willing to be with these kind of people, then stay away from them, keep yourself hiden and virgin until you get married. Good luck.

Answer 6

You are one smart cookie to question the silly preconceived notions high schoolers have about b.f./g.f. It is the peer pressure thing - teens have to conform to what is expected of them because they are not sure enough of their abilities or what they know. So, on it goes with lots of girls stuck with b.f.'s they don't really know and don't really care about. By the time one is 20 or perhaps 18, they should have grown up enought to know that people date to get to know one another or to just go to a movie because that is a shared interest. Of course boys and girl or women and men can and should have many friends of both sexes because that is what being human is all about. Of course when they become engaged to another that changes the casualness of relationships and they become more exclusive. In terms of keeping a marriage long terms it is best if one waits until they are emotionally mature and at or about age 25 years old. Good for you. You are thinking. Cool.

Answer 7

just have alot of guy friends,and go hang out with them one at a time.

Answer 8

I think it can be like that in high school too, ask long as you make your intentions clear from the start.....

Answer 9

that is exactly what i argue about but some ppl think thats not normal...but i strongly believe thats what whoever says they r normal to do...also now i know there r other ppl who think the same :))

Answer 10

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