is she the one?

Question

i have been dating a girl on and off for 6 years now. i am 23 and she is my first girlfriend. we have always been in a long distance relationship, at least 3 hours away or so. when we are together everything is great, but we have had a lot of fights. i have yelled at her and she said some pretty harsh things. that has caused her to never put in 100% effort, which she has admitted. i have met a lot of other girls and dated a few when we broke up and never really saw all the qualities that she has. i am now living in california, and she is in maine. one problem is how she acts when we break up, every time she has sex with a handful of men.. we recently broke up and she did the same thing. i was not expecting this latest break up as it came 2 days after she came to visit. anyways, we took a break for 2 weeks and she calls and starts talking again. she tells me yesterday that she wants to come to cali, something ive been waiting for her to say for 6 yrs.. what should i do?

Answer 1

well.. if you like the stress, drama, and heartache of this relationship, open your door to her. but if you want any chance of stability, don't answer her calls anymore. This is not a mature or stable relationship. All i can say is.. the sex must be good!!

Answer 2

All I can say is ... if it's taken 6 years for one of you to move ... I really don't think you have a chance at a decent relationship. Especially if you've been broken up several times. And the fact that she sleeps around with a bunch of guys when you're on a break proves that she's no where near ready to be committed to one person.
If she suddenly moves to California with you, what makes you think that your problems will suddenly be solved? If you end up breaking it off AGAIN, she'll do what she always does - sleep around with a bunch of guys until she's ready to start talking again. Only now, she's in the same zip code and could be sleeping with guys you know ...
I would say it's best to break it off - ASAP before she moves - even though it will be pretty difficult seeings how you've been together for so long.
But it'll be worth it, guaranteed. You'll find someone else that can make you SO much happier.

Answer 3

she is most likely not the one ... she plays around when you break up ... how do you know this isn't true when you are together ... all of a sudden she wants to move ... why? is it really for you or because she's running away from something there??

I think you can do a lot better than her and I think you'll find someone who is definitley more mature.

Answer 4

sounds complex

if she is having sex with a handful of men every so often, be safe, use condoms at least

go see her if you think its worth it

don't expect too much