Tell my daughter sex is ok as long as she is on birth control and using protection?? She's 16 but has been dating her b/f for 2 yrs. Is it wrong to tell her this?? I think she is sleeping with him but she didn't tell me. Should I tell her I'm Ok with it?? She stays over at his house almost every night and says she only sleeps in his arms. Is she being honest??
2006-11-24 10:16:43 · 11 answers · asked by Kiah 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do you think she would say if she had sex with him?? Would you want more than just ur g/f sleeping in ur arms??
2006-11-24 10:21:49 · update #1
She is sleeping with him, but no I don't think you should tell her it is ok.....why, by the way are you allowing her to stay over at his house????
2006-11-24 10:19:33 · answer #1 · answered by eliteflycaster 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what you are comfortable with. Are you ready to be "grandma" if things get a little too hot and heavy and in the heat of the moment they forget the protection? It sounds like your "daughter" wants to be treated as an adult, so don't hold back the other part of the adult "fun". Sit down with her and be very specific and frank about sexual activity, why protection is not 100 percent and discuss your concerns with her. If she is staying at his house "every night", you might also ask just how much influence you have right now. Better keep the lines of communication open on this one and be prepared.
2006-11-24 18:22:19 · answer #2 · answered by sapphire 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No!!! You should tell her.
I didn't start sleeping or doing anything with my boyfriend until my mom sat down and gave me the "MAJOR TALK". This made me open my eye's that she cared if I was doing anything or not. By telling me to get on birth control and to have safe sex it showed to me that she cared and wanted me to have a good life and not get pregnant. By your daughter sleeping at her boyfriends' house she is sleeping with him and not in his arms, you should sit her down and tell her what you think and that she needs to get "protected" but you also have to tell her about the dangers as well. My mom went all into the dangers but she is okay if my boyfriend and I have a little fun sometimes. :P Hope this helps you.
2006-11-24 18:22:46 · answer #3 · answered by Keisha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may very well be telling you the truth. There ARE still a few young girls in the world that value themselves and have understanding boyfriends.
However, I would recommend that on top of telling her to be safe with birth control and condoms, you also need to tell her that sex should also come with love and that she should be 100% sure she knows she wants to.
However, if she already IS, then I guess the birth control and condom remark is all you need. But it never hurts to reinforce the loooooove. ;)
I commend you for talking to her about it. There are way too many parents today who find it too uncomfortable to talk to their kids about sex and leave it to the media, their friends and their school to do it for them and they therefore get pointed in the wrong direction.
High five!
2006-11-24 18:22:11 · answer #4 · answered by Imperfect 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh Brother, wake up and smell the sex!!!!!!!!! She is not spending the night over there every night and never had sex. You already gave her the o.k., if she's spending nights over there. Now, you have to bug her everyday to see if she swallowed her little pill. Dont forget or you will be here with the next question which will be, "My daughters getting fat, is she pregnant?" Now, toss out the condoms cause if its been 2 years, they aint using them!!!!
2006-11-24 18:30:38 · answer #5 · answered by Sudie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say it was okay. However, I would point out to her the perils of sex. For example becoming pregnant aquiring std's including aids. If she insisted on having sex anyway, I would tell her to come to me for birth control. Many a parent who denied their child birth control wound up becoming a grandparent.
2006-11-24 18:20:49 · answer #6 · answered by queenmaeve172000 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you let your daughter who's 16 stay over at a boyfriends house overnight???? First off, you SHOULD NOT LET HER DO THAT!! Ummmmm..yeah, things are already pretty much ruined
2006-11-24 18:20:49 · answer #7 · answered by Kiara 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her that if she does have sex with her boyfriend to use birth control.
2006-11-24 18:24:18 · answer #8 · answered by Kelly*Ann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Again, at 16 they need to be in their own home and own bed for sleep...it is not okay...if you expect the truth, tell the truth...
2006-11-24 18:25:43 · answer #9 · answered by phyllis_neel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no its not bad --- its very responsible but make sure they are using protection as well there a lot mre scary things than being pregnant
your daughter should trust you enough to be able to talk to you about this so try to sit down and make sure she is aware of what may happen
2006-11-24 18:20:48 · answer #10 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋