I love this girl but...?

Question

as soon as i saw this girl i fell in love. At first we both were in relationships but after they ended we began talking and i fell in love even more. Sadly i wasnt around much an she now goes out with a complete goof who really has no future. Is she just naive or am i a fool for still loving her? what should i do, anyone had a similar situation?

Answer 1

Hello:

I think you need to give this romance a try for sure. But you don't want to go after her when she's in a relationship.

My boyfriend and I met and became friends about six years ago. We became really close friends, but we were both in relationships on and off for a few years. I had always felt something with him, but never acted upon it because I didn't want to lose the great friendship we had. And I wasn't sure if he was interested or not.

About three years into our friendship I had just ended a six month relationship with a guy, who was a real jerk. My boyfriend (who was still just a friend at the time) comforted me, and was just a great friend. After a few weeks, we were at his house watching a movie and he told me that he had feelings for me, and had for a long time. He said that he always debated telling me how he felt at the times we were both single, but always choose not to for fear of me rejecting him. Then he said that he thought we should try it out for fear of missing out on something great.

Needless to say, we've been together and in love for three years now. I don't believe in love at first sight, I think it is something that grows over time. Sometimes we joke about how we could have been together for three more years, but at the same time we both agree that our foundation as friends has made our relationship even stronger and is something that we both treasure.

No matter how much it bothered him to see me with another guy, he knew that I would never have choosen him over someone who was currently my boyfriend, that is just not the person I am. He also knew to give me time after my break up to heal and to move on. And I am greatful to him for both giving me time and space, because now we have something great.

You will never be able to understand how and why certain people who seem so different start dating, but you can not judge their relationship either. There is obviously something attractive about that other guy that makes her want to be with him. I would suggest using this time to become great friends with her, and when she is single again and if you still like her, then try to make it work.

I hope this helps, and good luck.

Answer 2

To start, situations like that depend on what stage in life you've reached. If you're still in high school, it's too early to get too terribly serious in a relationship because you would have much to learn about what's out there. If you're in your college years, it's more likely to have a meaningful relationship, but still not incredibly so. In any case, how much you care for her has to be visible to her if you want a chance. If you love her, make her know it. Nobody can really say you're foolish to be in love, though you may have chosen someone that doesn't suit you. If you can't let it go, then maybe you should step up and show her what you have to offer. If you can't do that, then you'll remain the guy with a crush and without the girl.

Answer 3

You are a fool if you think that you love her based on looks. I have fell for that too. Rite now I like a guy very much and I have to realize that there is more than just looks. It sounds like she was not sincere with you because if she really liked you back, she would have waited for you.

Answer 4

i think u should make a move, because u will be thinking about it until you do, n your not a fool, love is strong ,but just talk 2 her

Answer 5

Beat up her current boyfriend, then you will be her hero