Can my mom force me to see her doctor and have him look at me just to see if I've been having sex?

Question

I was caught sneaking out.
She thinks I'm some huge whore now.
I was with my boyfriend stephen.
And she is forcing me to go get "looked" at by her doctor.
Can she do that?
I do not feel comfortable with the idea of some weird guy claiming to be a doctor looking at my cooter...

Answer 1

Here's the honest scoop...I have a 15 year old daughter and I found a note of her promising a boy her virginity...so as her mom I freaked out. Well, I took her to get on birth control just in case and in the meantime I scared the heck out of her, hoping that if she did have sex she would just tell me so I would know and could offer her protection and help her deal with any problems that may come from it. Truth be told, when I took her to the gynocologist, the doctor asked me to leave the room when they examined her and also explained to me that anything she discussed with her or learned was strictly doctor patient confidentiality. I even tried to scare her after the exam by telling her the doctor told me something and she was in big trouble. I tried scaring her needlessly...I think. Bottom line, no the doctor keeps all of that confidential by a law known as HIPPA now and from the doctor patient confidentiality oaths they take. Even if your mom says the doctor told her something, she's only going on suspicion and trying to scare the truth out of you. If you do decide to have sex, just make sure that you are protected, please. I had to add that....as a mom :o)

Answer 2

You are 18 she can not force you to abort the baby. She will not understand you she is your mother. You and your boyfriend need to try moving in together and not be under your mom. Show her you don't need her to pay for anything. That's the only way she will see that your ready and your grown up. My wife and I got married when she was 17 almost and and I was 18. She had our son a year later so at 18 almost 19 we are still married coming on 3 years wit a 1 and a half year old son and ?bother on the way. You can do you at least you have his familys support. And they night even let you move in with them. After all what else can happen your already pregnant. Lol. Keep doing what your doing. After you hear the heart beat there is no greater love felt untill he or she is born. If you abort like your mom wants you will regret it and constantly think what if where would we be and what would the baby be doing. And everytime you are a baby you will start to cry and it will kill you inside.

Answer 3

She can't really 'make' you do anything. I mean think about it if you simply refuse to get in the car or go to the doctors office then you can't be looked at. Even if she manages to get you there, you could simply refuse to allow the doctor to inspect you.

However, you should note that she can very easily and quickly make your life a lot less fun. She could ground you, take away any privileges you may have, put bars on your windows, an alarm system on the door to monitor you trying to leave along with all sorts of other punishments. The best thing for you to do is sit down with your mother and talk to her like a mature adult. She will respect you a lot more and you may even learn a thing or two.

Also, it should also be noted that the inspection he is going to do is not really reliable because something as simple as being active in sports can make it look like you have been having sex.

Answer 4

If you are under 18 and in the US, yes she can. I'm sure she will take you to a real doctor, and while it might be a bit embarrassing, it won't take long. As long as you are still a virgin, you have nothing to hide. If not, you might as well come clean with your mom now, and maybe she will give you birth control. The doctor can also test for pregnancy and STDs, which I'm sure is what your mother's concern is about.

Search for questions about "first gyn appointment (or appt)" and you will find some good explanations on here of what to expect.

Answer 5

That's realy wrong for her to do that and, if you're over 16, you probably could refuse to get examined by her doctor. Besides that, all the exam would prove is that you haven't had vaginal sex. You still could have given a hand job, or given oral, or recieved oral, or even done anal, and a pelvic exam wouldn't show any of that. Your mom is being unrealistic and inappropriate.

If she makes you go to the doctor, you can still refuse to be examined by the doctor - and, by law, he cannot force you to take your clothes off and submit to an examination. If he does, that's assualt, and you can call the cops and/or report him to the State Medical Association.

Answer 6

Seems to me from your previous posts that you need to go to the doctor, and that you should be grateful that your mother is worried about you. As a 16 year old child you shouldn't be dating a 19 year old man and trying to figure out if your unprotected sex has resulted in pregnancy.

Your mother's instincts are dead on, and you should be grateful your mom cares enough to try and save you from your own immaturity. Your setting yourself up for a long hard life.

Answer 7

If you are sexually active it might be a good idea to see a doctor and discuss birth control options with him/her. You can tell the doctor you don't want your mom present when you discuss your health. It would also be a good idea to seriously consider getting one of the new vaccine's for HPV, which can cause cervical cancer.

I am sure your mom wants what is best for you, even if you don't see eye to eye on the issue of dating and boys. After all, she is your mom and has legal responsibility for you until your are 18.

Answer 8

Legally it would take a while if you made her pursue options legally,but that would answer her question anyway.There are many reasons for that little piece of flesh to be broken,so the doctor can't give her a 100% answer anyway unless it has been a very recent activity.My guess would be she is more concerned for your health and safety than whether or not your sexually active

Answer 9

People with nothing to hidem hide nothing. If you are going to sneak around you have to expect that your parents are going to be suspicious... Your parents are worried about you as they have the right to be.


"a weird guy claiming to be a doctor.."
Why would you question the credentials of a physician?

Answer 10

well she can do that, and he surely must be licensed to do that. But if you don't want to go see the doctor, just tell your mom the truth straight out. That will save you a visit to the doctor.