i live with my aunt and uncle. (dont ask.)
they have pretty much acted like parents for me. and my uncle and i are best friends, you could say. but recently, he was sent to the hospital because he has anuerysm ( i think i spelled it right?). anyway, he had surgery. hes almost balld, and theres a big incision on his head. im 12, and it sometimes really scares me seeing him like that. even when i visit him in the hospital, i am quiet and im scared to touch anything. the doc. says he should be back at home in maybe 2 weeks. i am worried if our realationship is going to change completely? like i said b4, i pretty much keep my distance from him because i get really scared.
any suggestions on how to get over my fear of seeing him like that when he gets home?
2006-11-24 09:40:11 · 4 answers · asked by jumanjifaceee 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sweetie I think it's normal for you to be scared, u r 12y.o. and this is pretty big for u and your family. May I suggest u speaking w/ your aunt about your fear, bceasue believe it or not u r not the only one that is concerned abotuhis return home. No one may be saying it, but they are. I'm sure your uncle will be ok and know that just as he is your best friend, u are one of his and he loves u and needs the strength he has instilled in u for this time. I pray you know the Lord and would encourage you to also take a few minutes to yourself, maybe go to your room or bathroom and ask the Lord to help you to help your uncle and aunt. Ask him to help you not to be afraid and to strengthen you in his spirit. And I promise God will do it for you and your family. God will comfort u and your family and bring peace into your spirit sweetie. I pray for u as I am typing this because I believe God will do it just for u. God bless.
2006-11-24 09:56:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First go to the library and look up information about your uncle's diagnosis (aneurysm). Maybe reading on it and finding out more about how it occurs and how it is treated will make you more comfortable with him.Talk to a school counselor or even your aunt about these feelings. Sometimes we watch scary movies and shows on TV and it makes a medical condition appear really frightening,ugly and bloody. I am sure no one wants to have surgeries and resulting scars. If your uncle has helped raise you ,you should make a big effort to be there for him and your aunt in their time of need. You are family and that is what family does, take care of each other regardless of whatever comes along. I know you love your uncle otherwise you wouldn't have written asking this question and that is a start.
2006-11-24 09:54:18 · answer #2 · answered by jesshispet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bald heads and scars on the scalp can be pretty creepy. Your uncle's hair will grow back and cover the scar and he will be the same loving uncle he was before his surgery. He may take some time to get completely back to normal, just like with any surgery.
Don't be afraid to talk to him about your feelings, it's ok to tell him it creeped you out seeing him like that. My boys got used to seeing me bald two years ago when I had cancer. Bald women can be pretty funny looking
2006-11-24 10:00:16 · answer #3 · answered by knittinmama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no need to worry i think you will find that you uncle will be in very good form when he returns, aneurysms are extremely dangerous to operate on and i am sure that your uncle is a very relieved man now that its over ,he has been given a second lease on life and if your relationship with him was good before the operation it will be better now that he is no longer worried
2006-11-24 09:53:20 · answer #4 · answered by michael c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋