It's always been like this. I don't get it. First of all I'm a relationshop hog (my last and first real relationship lasted 7 years, my current one is already 1 year old): even when not fully satisfied with a relationship I stick with it (maybe because it's... comfortable to have someone). But then there are always these other women I pine for. There was a coworker before I was CRAZY about, then there was this girl I met while traveling, now my classmate. I know nothing about her except that she's gotto a great ***, is cute, funny and unfortunately has a boyfriend (conjecture on my part: I saw a ring on her finger that looks suspicious and today I got a jolt when she referred to some guys as "my Matt". Am I a perfectionist? Or is it the forbidden fruit? Or am I just a slut?
2006-11-24 09:37:24 · 16 answers · asked by Theseus J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you are not in love with the other woman you are in love with the fantasy of what you think it might be like or how it could be with someone else every time i get tempted with anything like that i just go home to my man and have a fun night with him and remember what made me fall in love with him in the first place. hope this helps sorry if it don't.
2006-11-24 09:44:38 · answer #1 · answered by kitty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its the 'forbidden fruit' thing. You are probably perfectly happy with the relationship you are in but the thought of 'what you cant have' drives you crazy. You are probably more attracted to the 'forbidden' thing than the actual girl you think it is that you want. My advice is, be happy with what you have, and if youre not, then say goodbye before you start something with someone else. And dont stick with a relationship if you are not fully satisfied with it coz your 'one' may be just around the corner.
2006-11-24 09:44:46 · answer #2 · answered by AussieHel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow... I feel you bro. The eternal "grass is greener" issue.
I've been the exact same way all my life. I thought I'd grow out of it. I'm 29 now. Divorced once, and once again single.
I guess, I blame it all on meeting the first and only "true love" of my life when I was 15. Since then, I just haven't had the same feeling in a relationship with someone (including my marriage). And I too love to look at women, and pine for others when I'm with someone.
I guess my only advice to us, is to be happy with what we have. No one is perfect including (and especially) ourselves. But to just be careful in selecting what we choose, make sure its a nice combo between looks and personality. Know what I mean?
But at the end of the day there is no simple answer. Just keep living and experiencing life I guess. Maybe one day we'll be wise and can hopefully pass on our knowledge to our grandkids. ;-)
Good Luck!
2006-11-24 09:47:16 · answer #3 · answered by K 2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're just a ****! You can be pining for women all day long, but if you're with someone, you should be able to keep your penis at bay. If you can't then maybe you need to be single and stop fooling yourself. I know how I am and damned if I'm not single. I have had that problem, just like any other human being on this earth...we always want what we can't have. It's human nature, but the smart thing to do would be to stop lying to yourself, stop playing with these girls emotions and be single until you learn how to stop thinking with that brain in your pants and use the one under your skull.
2006-11-24 09:45:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry, yet i think of this female considers you a convenience. while all her emotional problems are over, i think of she will have the flexibility to circulate on. needless to say you're actually not her first priority. She is utilising you as a sounding board and a convenience. i be attentive to it's going to be confusing in the initiating , yet best for you interior the sport of existence. circulate on, no remember how problematical it hurts. She would not choose for you for your self. You deserve extra suitable.
2016-11-26 20:30:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to do a self examination of yourself. Does the phrase "The grass always look greener on the other side of the fence", ring a bell. It seems you really do not know what it means to be satisfied in a relationship.
2006-11-24 09:43:34 · answer #6 · answered by brotherman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You haven't learned how to stay in a lasting long term relationship because you really never had one to know how wonderful true love is..
you only stayed because you were comfortable with it .
you aren't a player buy you are a traveling man...
A traveling man of many desires.
2006-11-24 09:45:15 · answer #7 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're being human, it's natural to feel that way.
You should always loves multiple women, don't love only one.
Don't break your current relationship to get a new one.
2006-11-24 10:38:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
MAYBE YOU'RE NOT READY FOR A SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP AND YOU SHOULD JUST CHILL. IT'S NOT THAT YOUR AN *** YOU PROBABLY JUST DON'T KNOW EXACTLY WHAT TYPE OF WOMEN YOU LIKE, YOU PROBABLY THINK"OOH SHES CUTE" AND DONT GET A CHANCE TO REALLY FIGURE OUT WHAT SHE'S LIKE! YOU SOUND LIKE A NICE GUY BUT YOU JUST GOTTA TAKE IT SLOW!
2006-11-24 09:43:38 · answer #9 · answered by C~Rieezee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Greed of the forbidden fruit
2006-11-24 09:40:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋