I got a Question ..please help me?

Question

Um.. i am a very shy person when it comes to talking with boys that I like...I need to build up more confidence so how do I do that???

Answer 1

You're 13, you don't need to be talking to boys. Keep your panties dry, little girl.

Answer 2

If you're still in school and there is a boy your interested in, do your homework and see if you can find out what his interests are. Then go up to him when he is alone not in a crowd or with someone else and ask him if he can answer a question for you about schoolwork or whatever sport or activity you know he is interested in. Act as though that was all you wanted to do and then say thank you and walk away. If he is interested he might try to continue the conversation, don't push it. Just remember to make eye contact when you talk to him. I will get easier every time. Oh yes, don't expect a miracle because boys can be shy as well or maybe he already has a girlfriend. In either case don't be disappointed and give up. Good luck!

Answer 3

Having confidence takes time. When I was younger, I was shy till I was about 14, and then I couldnt hold in anything anymore. I was VERY outgoing, and VERY confident. I think it took ME becoming and acting confident for other people to see me in a different light. What I mean is that before I became confident, boys wouldnt even look at me, THEN I just decided that HEY, I know Im good looking, I know Im smart, why cant I BE CONFIDENT TOO, and started to act confident and then BOYS came ROLLING in! I knew I was putting on a front, and just pretending to be outgoing, and confident, but NOW i really am, and I LOVE IT!

Answer 4

Start by asking them questions and letting them talk. If you're at work and need something answered, ask one of the guys. If you're at school and have questions that you know the boy can answer - ask them.

Start a study group. Join a club.

The key is to begin with situations and conversations that are work or school related. Then work your way into the more personal stuff.

Answer 5

To help you break yourself of your shyness you should start just saying hi to people in whom you are passing...some will say hi back some won't , the ones that won't help build your confidence in dealing with rejection so that way when you talk to a guy you like that you don't feel uncomfortable.

Answer 6

talk to boys.

there is no other way.

Get the mindset that you are just talking to some other friend and act as friends. No neeed to be shy unless you have some sneaky plan?

Otherwise, just be normal and stop worrying about how you look and sound.

Tell you a secret, .................boys arent worth stressing yourself over.

Answer 7

I have the same problem. Its easier for me to talk to guys I'm not attracted to, and I'm assuming that's the same for you. Just don't think so much when you go to talk to a boy, it makes things so much easier and he might even begin to like you back if you start talking to him frequently. You don't even have to talk about anything serious you could just joke with him or whatever. You should even try getting his screen name so you two could talk online as well.
Good Luck!! :-)

Answer 8

,well for me i always acted like my self and didn't care for the boys, and they seem to like me more than if i were to at a certain way because i liked them!!! just be ur self and try to talk more!!! be confident

Answer 9

Hey the way I look at it is........ Be yourself. If they like who you are. Then go for it. Strike up a conversation and see how it goes.

Answer 10

well maybe you should start with your insecurities so that way you could be more conferable around people and then try to be more social and get to know people.