how can i get my bf to marry me?
we've talked about it before but he wants to wait until he's at least out of college if not both of us. we're both 19 and have been dating for almost four years. i can't help but feel like he just doesn't want to marry me because he's not sure i'm "the one". i know it'd be hard but other couples are able to do it so why can't we? and i know that the marriage might not work out but i'd rather be married to him for a year then not ever be married to him. if you think i'm making a mistake in thinking this way then please explain that to me in a nice respectful manner. thanks!
2006-11-24 09:18:04 · 7 answers · asked by yo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your thinking is a mistake. Wait until you both finish school and have jobs in your chosen field. Life is long. There is no reason to rush into anything.
2006-11-24 09:29:57 · answer #1 · answered by Melius 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that's quite a tricky question really..
But try and look at it this way, you're both young - only 19.
You got the whole world ahead of you, and plenty of time to get married in. A decision such as marriage shouldn't be taken lightly, no matter if it's just a piece of paper and the title mr. and mrs.
If he's in doubt about getting married, then I think it might be because he's still young and may not feel ready for such a responsibility. Not neccesarily because he doesn't think you're the one, but because he'd might like to keep his freedom, so to speak, for a little longer. I know from my experiences, that I wouldn't be ready to get married, no matter if I've met the one to spend the rest of my life with or not. Marriage is afterall nothing but a piece of paper, confirming the everlasting love between you and your partner.
And I saw that you said you'd rather be married to him for a year then never at all.. Well, I'd rather be married to one person the rest of my life then getting married at all.
And hey, it seems to me like you feel you have found 'the one', if that's so, then treasure it! There's no need for a piece of paper to confirm what you share with eachother.
Sincerely, Chris.
2006-11-24 09:37:54 · answer #2 · answered by Chris W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are making a msitake. You are very young. Don't be in such a rush. Finish college. Get some experience. There is plenty of time to settle down in marriage and the last thing you want in your life is a divorce.
2006-11-24 09:20:35 · answer #3 · answered by Isis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are WAY TOO YOUNG to get married. See other people to gain a better perspective, definitely DO NOT GET PREGNANT because that kinda' crap is low and the marriage will not last.
IMHO, it should be illegal for people to get married before they have lived on their own for a few years; otherwise they never learn how to function on their own and are fkd if they get divorced.
Grow up first...then get married
2006-11-24 09:54:37 · answer #4 · answered by bongfuel 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
yes you are makeing a mistake. and only because you can't force someone to marry you because i swear if you do he will be a lousy husband because he only did it cause you made him. just be patient with your man and give him time. you both are still young and who knows what tomorrow will bring
2006-11-24 09:22:08 · answer #5 · answered by jumiboo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WAIT!! Live alone, live together experience as much as you can in life. Trust me on this... I know from experience.
2006-11-24 09:22:16 · answer #6 · answered by chicken farmer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well why would you want to be married to somebody that doesn't want to be married to you?
2006-11-24 09:21:26 · answer #7 · answered by sweetybabe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋