Buying women drinks - is it worth it?

Question

Guys - Here's a good Friday Night question (think about this when you go out later). Is it REALLY worth it to buy a woman a drink? Sure, you may get a cell phone number (but, then again, if you call her, she'll probably see your name on caller ID, let it go to voicemail, and never return your message!). More likely, you'll get a "thank you" and she'll go back to her friends without the decency of even talking to you for a couple of minutes. And, in New York City, drinks are expensive - depending where you go a martini or a cosmo could cost $ 12 dollars or more. So, is it really worth it to buy a woman a drink?

Answer 1

Do it because you want to, not because you expect something in return...expectations are rarely met and then people feel angry about not getting what they thought they earned or deserved.

If a guy buys me a drink, I consider it a nice gesture...I do not consider myself obligated to give him my number, attention, or anything else...if I like him he'll get those things anyway...but a drink doesn't obligate anyone to behave in any certain way (that goes for chicks buying drinks for guys too)...

If you don't want to spend the money because you consider it a gamble not worth taking...then don't spend the money...a woman who is actually interested in you, won't really care if you guy her a drink or not anyway...

Answer 2

I don't think this strategy works very well unless you walk up and begin the conversation first off, guage the level of interest (or lack thereof) and then buy the drink. When I was in college, I would walk up (w/ my wingman) w/ a pitcher to the table and set it down, then ask them (always works best with a crowd) if we could sit down, making some excuse as to how crowded the bar was, etc.
I am of the opinion this drink buying startegy doesn't work well unless you are doing it in conjunction with the approach;
NEVER buy the drink from afar, you are the disembodied drink buyer at that point, not a good approach, imho...
If the outcome is at all in question and money is tight, then no. If you feel positive about the initial contact and have the money, I'd go ahead and buy the drink, if the purchase is in context...
I hope this makes sense to you...

Answer 3

If a guy approaches a woman with a offer to buy her a drink of course a woman is going to accept it. You just have to make sure you are the one she's more interest in than the drink. If you really want to talk to her then I would suggest talking to her first before taking out your wallet to buy her one of those expensive drink.

Answer 4

If a guy buys me a drink I always say thank you but if he doesnt initiate the conversation I dont either. Just because you buy me a drink doesnt mean I am that cheap that you will get any further. I need to get to know that person before going out w/them. If I except your drink and you come over to talk I am polite enough to converse but I do not feel obligated to go out w/you over one bought drink. I am priceless...just joking! I think it is very gentlemanly to buy a drink for a girl but be selective in doing this. I will also be upfront enough to let a guy know that I am not interested and that he shouldnt buy me any drinks. I am not rude just upfront. But then again it depends on how many drinks I've already had to decline free ones...LMAO ok..not funny..sorry. Maybe before buying that drink..try talking to her first. Good luck...have fun tonight..I know I will.

Answer 5

maybe stick to buying her drinks after there is some conversation and an obvious good rapport. or yeah,, otherwise guys do get "chumped" alot dont they.

Answer 6

only if you have to money to blow. if you dont, start a conversation with her first, then offer to get her a drink

Answer 7

Never, unless you're actually on a date.

Answer 8

i would love to accept u honey