Please give me your advice and or opinion on what I should do?

Question

Okay..My husband, me and my two little boys, one of two and a half and the other of five and a half, are currently living with my Mother.My Mother brought a niece of hers to live with her last year, before we even came back to live in her home because we were renting an apt. before(and why we moved?Because when my husband and I were seperated, for almost one year, he finally found himself an apt. but was sharing it with another guy, well, that other guy never did want to leave after I moved in, so we decided that the best thing to do was leave.That guy smoked like crazy in the apt. and was always changing girls from one weekend to the next and bringing them to sleep over by the way).Anyway, my Mom's niece, my cousing,of 16, was brought here to the U.S. from Costa Rica because her Mom is really mentally sick in Costa Rica and my Mom had the kind heart to just bring her here and assume responsibility for her and to let her get an education here.We have been living there for like six and.

a half months.We have realized with several problems that we have had that it might be time for us to move out again.It is hard because I feel like a lot of times my Mohter prefers her niece on many things than me or even my Father.I don't mean to be harsh by saying that, but my cousing sometimes just acts like I guess any other "16" year old too.Well, what is holding me and my husband back on moving to rent again is that my husband currently takes care of my two year old in the mornings because he works 2nd shift, and I work 1st.I have told my husband that I really wanted him to get a 1st shift before we move out.But, we hate to put my two year old to have to wake up early and have to get him out early in the mornings.He has like three more years before he can start Pre-k.So I have told my husband that if we move out then he needs to try to get switched to a first shift, but he thinks we should wait the couple yrs. to allow my little one to start school.I don't know what to plan.?

Answer 1

wuts the ?....this dosnt make any sense wutsoever

Answer 2

For the sake of you & your family's privacy and sanity, you need to get your own place. Your Mom sounds very sweet, and-so do you; I am sure she doesn't mind you being there; but unless ya'll have a really big home, this is a burden on her, and now that you are an adult; it's time for some independence. I know it's hard to save up enough money- especially with kids- to move out, but parents have the responsibilty of raising their children up to adulthood. I'm really not trying to talk bad, but ya'll really need to get a place that you can all really call your own.... I just read the rest of what you had to say, and if your mom is willing to let you all live there, I am sure she wont mind the kids staying there at night when you're schedules overlap. Or your husband needs to compromise & swith shifts for everyone's sake.
As far as your niece; you mother doesn't not prefer her... If that was the case- you wouldn't even be there. She's still a child, andf you are an adult with a family of your own. That's all.

Answer 3

The only privacy you and your husband is going to get is in your own place i am 24 with 3 kids and married and ive been down that road never want to go back get jobs and move out living with mom is not fun either can be sometimes but really you and your husband can have much more fun by yourselves without parents prying in your business

Answer 4

Were you finished with your story? It seems like you left out the rest of the story and did not ask the question.

Answer 5

well if u r married with kids. i think u should get ur own apartment and let ur mother enjoy her niece. and she is a very nice lady with a good heart.

Answer 6

Wow. You do and you say what will be done for your child. Period! Tell your husband convenience is for the lame.

Answer 7

Live and let live

Answer 8

ummm... i dont get what your saying.