help me!! SERIOUS ANSWERS ONLY?

Question

okay, i kno ive asked before, but no one got the question, so let me say it this way... my friend cuts her wrists. she has to tell her mom or some conselor at school will for her. she would rather tell her mom herself, but she doesnt know how to bring it up to her mom and what she should say. and she just earned her moms trust back so she is really scared. do you know a good way to say it to her mom? only serious answers please. i worried about her.

Answer 1

I went threw this a couple of years ago with my own daughter she was "cutting" herself too! I was in shock but, kept my "mom" composure. I wish should could have come to me before she did this. But, we had to deal with it! I found our threw getting her counceling its was from stress. She did not know how to let the stress go. I was so afraid for her, not disappointed. We talked out a lot of things and we cried. She happened to have a good friend over when I found out and it helped that her friend was there to help me understand. Maybe you can go with your friend to give her suport in telling her Mom. Mom might understand better if you were with her. Keep encouraging her to tell her Mom. My daughter had a teacher that noticed her wrists and kept all of it confidential. The teacher was of great guidence to me also. You are a good friend, and stand by her. Hope this helps. I am a Mom who has made myself understand the meaning behind the "cutting". Good Luck

Answer 2

Wow. At some point she does need to come through and tell but it's only human to be afraid of what kind of response she will get. But first i would like to say that she is extremely lucky to have you as a friend. You really care about her and you know what, that will help too. Something this serious needs to be taken seriously but very very gently. You, your friend and her mom need to sit down together one day and tell her mom whats going on because by bottling this inside it can only get worse and i can surely say that no mother will want to do anything for her daughter, with this problem, but help. I do wish you the absolute best of luck, both you and your friend. Your doing the right thing. <3

Answer 3

Well just be gald that your friend had enough courage to admit her problem. You as a friend encourage her to talk to an adult your a pretty great friend.. Try to make her as comfortable as possible maybe your friend you and the conselor should talk about this before telling her mom that way her mom doesn't over react conselor deal with stuff like that all the time. Then suggest that all four of you have a talk ...then later she can talk to her mom herself. good luck

Answer 4

Most people are very uncomfortable around another person's self-mutilation. They are afraid that the self-mutilator is suicidal or screaming for attention through her skin.

How has she been breaking her mother's trust? How did she earn it back? It sounds like she and her mother have some issues. What does your friend want so badly that she thinks cutting herself will get it?

Your friend is not alone. If she wants to continue to cut herself, you can do nothing for her. If she wants to stop and to find for herself better ways to live and overcome the challenges of life, you can suggest that she go to a Self-Mutilators Anonymous meeting online or at least to read about the experiences of others in recovery http://www.selfmutilatorsanonymous.org/ .

You may wish to check out the website as well. It may help you to understand what she is going through.

Answer 5

It sounds like your friend is afraid of a typical parent response....something to the effect of "Why would you do something stupid like?" or "You could stop cutting yourself if you really wanted to..." Your friend as you know is a self-mutilator...usually people with this mental disorder as victims or rape or some other kind of serious trauma that leaves them feeling a sense of self hatred. The cutting temporarily helps with the emotional pain....Do you know what exactly prompted her to start doing this?

In any event she needs to explain to her mom that she is severely depressed....that there is something that has apparently caused her the need to begin to self-injure and that she is coming to her because she WANTS help...She needs to make it clear to her mom that she does not like to do but she cannot stop and she wants her to help her...She needs to be in a treatment center designed for people who self-injure...

I wish you and your friend the best of luck...my heart goes out to her. I don't self-mutilate but I am a lifelong sufferer of severe disabling depression, anxiety and OCD...I tried to go to my parents when I was a teenager and they were very ignorant when I tried to open up to them. I hope her mother is more compassionate than my parents were.

Take care and stay strong for your friend. You are a good person. Alot of people can't handle the stress of dealing with a friend with a mental illness and they walk away....I am proud of you and proud of your friend for working up the nerve to tell her mother....

Answer 6

she shold say "mom im sorry ive been through a lot of pressure and ive been cutting my wrists".

Answer 7

she should just sit her mom down, and say this is important, and i wanted to tell you, but ..... etc.etc. just explain what she is feeling the best she can, and show her mother, and she should not stop talking until she feels ok, and its going to be 20 questions, but it happens..

Answer 8

she could tell her how shes been feeling and tell her that those feelings have caused her to cut. or she could just come out and show her the cuts.

Answer 9

She could write her a note! That is easy, yet just as effective

Answer 10

tell her to say, "mom, i know that you might be mad at me, but...i cut my wrist." She'll feel better afterwards.