So, it was the 8th consecutive day this man and I had been hanging out. The attraction was evident from the start, but his style is teasing and indirect. Mine is straightforward and direct but I was enjoying his style. But - 8th date rolls around - clearly he is wondering whether or not he can touch me. I am wondering if he has a girlfriend in another town as I've been told he does. So - I put an end to indirection and ask him. He says "No". Then says "Why does it matter". I say "Matters to me because if I had a boyfriend, I wouldn't want him to be starting a romance in another town, so as per an ethical code, I can't start a romance with an attached person". Let's just say he pointedly freaks and does not show basic courtesy after this - in fact acts like a rude jerk - after calling me several times a day up until this point.
Do I conclude (a) He has a girlfriend but is attracted to me and conflicted (b) He's not that into me now (c) He's a flake and I should move on (d) Other
2006-11-24 08:23:50 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes. (a) He has a girlfriend but is attracted to me and wants to be a lying little cheater but he now realized I'm not stupid enough to fall for that crap. (b) He's not that into me because I'm way too good for the loser who obviously has no morals. (c) He's a flake and I should move on-- yesterday.
2006-11-24 08:28:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Examine carefully about 'temptation' (abstract): NKJV Matthew 6 <--- contrasts Life and Death ---> Ps 48 13 And do not lead us into temptation, But deliver us from the evil one. For Yours is the kingdom and the power and the glory forever. Amen. Luke 4 13 Now when the devil had ended every temptation, he departed from Him until an opportune time. James 1 12 Blessed is the man who endures temptation; for when he has been approved, he will receive the crown of life which the Lord has promised to those who love Him. Matthew 26 <--- contrasts Deliverance and Judgment ---> Ps 48 41 Watch and pray, lest you enter into temptation. The spirit indeed is willing, but the flesh is weak." Luke 8 13 But the ones on the rock are those who, when they hear, receive the word with joy; and these have no root, who believe for a while and in time of temptation fall away. 1 Timothy 6 9 But those who desire to be rich fall into temptation and a snare, and into many foolish and harmful lusts which drown men in destruction and perdition. 2 Peter 2 9 then the Lord knows how to deliver the godly out of temptations and to reserve the unjust under punishment for the day of judgment,
2016-05-22 22:55:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that he said, "Why, does it matter?" tells me that more than likely he DOES have a girlfriend in another town and wants to keep you on the hook so to speak. In other words, he is a two-timer at the very least. Obviously by his answer he proves himself to be a person who believes he can do as he pleases and it shouldn't bother you. I wonder what he would say if you told him you had a boyfriend in another town. I expect he would not like it and change his tune. It's okay with him if he two-times you but it is not okay if you two-time him. What to do? MOVE ON!
2006-11-24 08:32:10 · answer #3 · answered by Lewis P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself if you enjoy someone that freaks out and acts like a rude jerk.
There is no need to judge, guess or wonder what's up with him. Just observe the way he has acted and ask yourself if that kind of behavior after 8 dates is something you enjoy and value in your life.
If so, continue. If not, then move on.
2006-11-24 08:51:34 · answer #4 · answered by teach_empathy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A) is half right, he has a girlfriend and is also attracted to you, for a guy that isn't a conflict
B)Yes
C)He's not a flake, just a guy that wants more than one woman, moving on or staying is your choice
D)There isn't anything "other" than that
2006-11-24 08:29:57 · answer #5 · answered by birdman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you deserve better. A real man will be honest, direct, caring, and considerate of your feelings. Anyone that you have to 'figure' out is most likely doing something dishonest. Believe it or not there are decent guys out there but it sounds like this guy is not.
2006-11-24 08:29:54 · answer #6 · answered by questioningly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you had asked him this, and there was NO other woman, he would have told you so and moved on. Instead he freaked. Obviously, he didnt' want to give you a truthful answer. Kudos to you for being upfront and having morals.
2006-11-24 08:30:19 · answer #7 · answered by Lisa C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
C...obviously this guy is not worth your time, hon. Anytime a guy will freak out just because you asked him a question like that, he isn't worth your time and or space. Move on to a guy who you KNOW is single. Dig deep before you leap!
2006-11-24 08:28:03 · answer #8 · answered by Kiss You Softly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep he's a flake alright
Find yourself a decent man, and thank you lucky stars you asked the right questions!
2006-11-24 08:28:10 · answer #9 · answered by somebody cares 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm maybe a and c and secret option e) he's a loser deadbeat be glad this happened now and not a few months down the road
2006-11-24 08:31:06 · answer #10 · answered by Carrie H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋