No more money coming in, should I leave him.?

Question

Im a single woman and my friend is married we have been together for 6 years. He has helped me finacially with things I needed throughout the years. We have spent plenty time together and even went out of town together. We use to talk on the phone 4 to 5 times a day. I don't mind him being married cause I figured I could never get tired of someone I don't see all the time. But two weeks ago he had a stroke and now he can't do anything for me anymore because since hes already retired twice he decided not to go back to work. He does'nt want to lose me but knows I depended on him and I now don't have anyone to call on when I needed something. I already have a full time job and can't work a second one because I have a kid. I tried to work a second fulltime job overnight but I ended up over working myself and could'nt get to work on time. And I said that to say im not a golddigger I will try at least to find another job outside of taking care of my kid. Should I move on&stay friends or what

Answer 1

if u rlly loved him then u wouldnt care if ther was any money coming in

Answer 2

That is cruel in so many ways and it makes you really sound like a gold digger. Not to be rude. But first of all if you were married would you want your husband with someone else... I mean it's his fault too but there's a thing called karma. Second you're saying you had no other interest in him or the relationship besides monetary? that's kinda messed up. third now that funds are dried up you're thinking of leaving him to what go find another sugar daddy? I don't know if you have a girl child but is that the kind of example you want to give your child, men are only as good as what they can do for you, no need to live off yourself when someone else is willing to provide for you. If you cared about him you would stick around and help him out, maybe even earn some of that money he was wasting on you, but it's apparent you don't so you need to get a job, find a single man that you care for instead of going on to the next wallet.

Answer 3

You have issues if you are messing around with a married man. I will recommend that you get help like as in with a shrink. You should only have been friends and nothing more, but if you do leave him and not be friends then you will be seen as a gold digger and he will lose respect for you and feel used all that time and call you a gold digger as well. You definitely need to do some self searching and evaluate your morales because if not you will end raising your child to think it is o.k. to use people for their money until they can no longer do for you anymore. I have no respect for you at this point. I have don't a lot of f*cked up things before, but using someone for their money was never one of them. Please for the sake of your child and the man that has helped you out in so many ways, stay friends with him in a pluetonic way. He deserves that and you don't want your child to see that kind of behavior. Later....L.G.

Answer 4

I think women like you give other women a bad name! Do you have any ethics? And you have children. What sort of example are you setting for your child? To use and abuse someone else? Never be independent. Don't get me wrong-It's hard out there. Survival of the Fittest (sp). But wow-even asking that question is so shallow. It reminds me of the animal kingdom. Once the resources are gone, they move on. Are you really his friend-or did you just use him and take advantage of his his unhappy situation? You can still be a friend, but since you are such a mooch, why don't you expand your horizons a bit and invite 3 to 4 sugar daddy's into your life. That way-when 1 dies or runs into financial trouble-you have a safety net. I think the vocation for this is legal in Nevada. And this way, you wont have to deal with the guilt of knowingly selling yourself and falsly investing into a relationship. And using your child as an excuse to take advantage of someone else. GOOD Lord!! We all want what is best for our children, but I would rather strugglle and set a base and foundation of good morals and ethics, than to teach my children to lie and take advantage of other people, and encourage them to help others commit adultery. I'm so mad!

Answer 5

First of all, you shouldn't of gotten together with him in the first place. He is a married man. Second, you are a gold digger because you're only with this guy because he give you money. If you really loved him, you wouldn't even be asking this question. Yeah, move on and find your own man.

Answer 6

So, let me get this straight...you were friends with this married guy because he was giving you money. Now that he's had a stroke and can no longer provide you with any money, you want to dump your married friend?
First of all, that is extremely shallow. Secondly, he's married. Why is he giving you money to begin with? Were you 'earning' the money?!
I think that you should let his friendship go. He deserves so much more than what you have to offer-which is apparently nothing.

Answer 7

wow you say you are not a golddigger, yet #1: he's already married!!! and #2 you want to leave him b/c he can't support you anymore?!? not only a golddigger, but this makes you sound really shallow as well. if he has had a stroke you should at LEAST be a friend to him. but i guess you didn't learn about morals did you?

Answer 8

move on... you wasn't with him cause you really loved him.. you was with him for what he gave you. He's married, under a covenant... It doesn't matter how you two feel.... it's time to move on...it may be painful not having that comfort zone... but maybe this is Gods way of bringing closure to this situation....I'm sure you can make it and even find some one that can meet your needs.... but some needs you are going to have to meet your self

Answer 9

You are something, now that it comes down to what a relationship is all about your going to walkout, Why don't you just tell his wife so she can finish him off, I think I would have worked 6 jobs to make sure my child had whatever he needed, but I guess your way worked out better for YOU. have a nice life.

Answer 10

if you were in my life I'd dump you faster than I could a demon's soul as that is what you are.

to be friends or not based on money, gaining items, etc....thats not friendship....THATS USING ANOTHER PERSON FOR YOUR OWN PERSONAL GAINS.

you will be repaid for this wrong that you have done.

glad I am not your friend since you base friends on money, what they give you, etc....as that is NOT the definition of a friend. then add in the fact he's had a stroke, etc and now needs you and you want to leave......talk bout one self centered B*TCH.

Answer 11

dump him if he is not with u all the time and he is married not to be rude but thats kinda dumb u need to find a man so that he can say u are the only one for me and mean it well good luck