I have a friend who told their son at age 4 that he would be very disappointed in his son if he cried ever....i don't agree with his method as when his son was seriously injured he felt if he cried about it he would get in trouble. What do you think?
2006-11-24 08:14:22 · 19 answers · asked by lisad20120 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
No, I don't think it is OK to tell a little boy this. If you don't want him crying in public, them maybe tell him it isn't OK to do it in a crowd, but don't take away his sensitivity side by telling him he is wimpy.
2006-11-24 08:19:47 · answer #1 · answered by Angela D 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
ABSOLUTELY NOT! Crying may seem wimpy to some people, but he's just a boy!!! Now, crying to get his way is one thing, but crying over getting hurt is completely fine as long as he really was hurt. I know some parents pick their children up if they just trip without even falling and cuddle them to make sure they are OK. I have found that when my daughter falls, even when she hits her head, if I talk to her in a chipper voice and say, "Oh you're OK! You didn't hit it too hard" and then pick her up, she's fine! She RARELY cries unless she hits too hard. Now, your friend needs to tell her son that crying to get his way or get attention is not good. He should find productive ways to get attention and she needs to explain why he can't have everything he wants. As for crying when he gets hurt...she should let him! It hurts...so LET HIM CRY! Within reason. Some kids will keep crying b/c their parents will keep saying, "Poor baby. Poor baby." If it's been 10 minutes she needs to tell him that she knows he's OK and he needs to stop crying, but initially, GO AHEAD! I hate to hear things like this because it is making him suppress his feelings and if he is scared to cry, that's even worse. Crying is an outlet for pain and hurt...we all need to cry every once in a while.
2006-11-25 14:12:49 · answer #2 · answered by Hootie562 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very mean. Crying is a natural thing that kids do whether it is a boy or girl. Children need to know that it is a healthy emotion, that it is normal and shouldn't be repressed. Calling any child wimpy for whatever reason is ridicule and humiliation. I call it verbal abuse. Children can carry on a certain label and beat themselves up for it for many years. All he is going to hear is that HE is wimpy, not his crying. He is too young to articulate that. Your friend sounds very old fashioned and needs some childhood education now.
2006-11-24 08:25:12 · answer #3 · answered by sally 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a terrible thing to tell a child! The poor kid. Kids need to feel safe and loved and NOT JUDGED by their parents. Parents are the ones children should turn to when they need help. They shouldn't be too ashamed to ask for help!
This is very sad. Tell your friend it was wrong and he should tell his son that it is OK to cry sometimes.
2006-11-24 15:36:03 · answer #4 · answered by kristin c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ok to tell him not to "whine" (you know kind of fake cry), but not to cry, that is just not right. A child needs to learn how to express himself. And if a child is in pain, the parent needs to know, and crying is a way of letting them know how bad it hurts. A child should not feel that their parents will be disappointed in them or that they will get in trouble for crying - it does not make them a baby - it makes them a human being.
2006-11-24 08:24:16 · answer #5 · answered by tanner 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone cries! It does not make a person "wimpy". It shows that they are human! All people have feelings and emotions. This will either harden the child's emotions or cause the child unnecessary stress. Please tell the child it is okay to cry, but not to whine...
2006-11-24 08:22:14 · answer #6 · answered by gavinsugarbooger 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
kids should be tought not to whine . but crying is somthing that shows feelings , emotions. there are reasons to cry and reasons not to .thats what a child should be tought .
a child shouldnt be raised to be unsensitive towards human feelings.
wonder how ur friend will feel if his wife died and his son didnt even whipper over her death. .
2006-11-24 09:05:21 · answer #7 · answered by porcelain65711 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have taught my 2 sons that it is ok to cry,I feel that because of this they have better control over their emotions.My husband doesn't agree but he has gotten better at this since we had our daughter who is a drama queen.
2006-11-24 10:30:00 · answer #8 · answered by icequeen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's wrong to tell a child he can't cry, but I'm not a parent.
2006-11-24 15:12:05 · answer #9 · answered by Gypsy Girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not right to tell a kid that anything they do is wimpy, or anything negative like that.
2006-11-24 18:05:17 · answer #10 · answered by wifeofasexyairman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋