i broke up with my ex about 3 weeks ago over a stupid reason and i really want to get back with him.i asked a couple of my friends to ask if he wanted to get back together but he was like "i want to hear it from her...neva mind she she ****ed up" i really love him and i want to try it again but my friends tell me dat hes still hurt.he doesnt even talk to me anymore and one of my friends mentioned my name to him and he said "dont say her name around me" i dont kno wat i should do.plz dont tell me i need to move on cuz no other boy can replace him.on monday i plan on asking him face to face if he wants to go wit me but i never did this b4. wat should i say/?? wat if he says no??? plz help.sorry its so long i was just ranting
2006-11-24 08:00:08 · 9 answers · asked by YAHHHHHHHH 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you plan to talk to him face to face then just be completely honest with him. Tell him you screwed up, you are sorry, and that you still love him. I know that leaves you vulnerable to really being hurt but I see no other choice. Then ask him if you can work things out and get back together but don't let him say he wants to think about it. Ask him to give you your answer right then and there. That way nobody else gets involved and you have your answer. If you do it this way it shows your maturity, good luck to you :)
2006-11-24 08:13:12 · answer #1 · answered by questioningly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sugar, there will be MANY other boys to replace him. It just takes time to get over a person you've cared about.
If you want to speak to him though, do it yourself...don't have friends going back and forth with "he said/she said"...do your own work and if you messed up, then take responsibility for your actions and learn the lesson not to do it again...
He may well not want to go out with you again...and you WILL have to accept that and move on...it's part of relationships...just remember in the future not to break up with someone in a fit of anger...if a relationship can be cast aside that easily, it probably wasn't worth being in, in the first place.
2006-11-24 08:04:27 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ooh man, I have a friend who was in that situation and she claims that she's never going to go out with a black guy again, kind of racist of her, but then she dated some other black guy who was a bit more respectful. Just try talking it out with him in a way that makes hm think you're not crazy, he sounds pretty disrespectful, idk. Just write out what you want to say and have a basic outline of what you're going to tell him, and dress up cute and a bit conservative, but have real nice hair and makeup on Monday. Then, talk out your feelings and try ONE last time. If you try more than once, it will probably make things far worse. But if he's a jerk, he's a jerk, you know?
2006-11-24 08:07:17 · answer #3 · answered by Jenny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that it is really hard, If you love him go for it. Don't hold back. He is probably still really hurt over it and needs time to think about it all. You might just have to talk to him about everything and see how he feels. If he is still angry give him a bit to calm down.
Hope it helps.
Emily
2006-11-24 08:04:17 · answer #4 · answered by Emi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you were not ranting and you should not... 'move on'. I always prefer the direct approach. Besides you have nothing to lose. You love him, you want him back... you pick up the hone and TELL HIM just what you have told us.
2006-11-24 08:03:39 · answer #5 · answered by RED-CHROME 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him yourself, either face to face, over the phone or in a letter. Apologize and then leave him be. If he wants you back he'll come to you.
2006-11-24 08:03:13 · answer #6 · answered by bman_1977 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
was the reason stupid to you or him?he husb and i have gotten into it over stupid stuff before and i thought i was gonna lose him.then i just finally told him how much i love him and needed him and it always works out.also you should to the talkin not your friends
2006-11-24 08:08:31 · answer #7 · answered by starr67 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
boys are all the same. what you have to ask yourself is "dose he really like me?". if you know he doesn't, or if he doesn't want to get back with you, don't force him. what most girls do is trying to make them jealous, but that never works out for them. all i can say is fallow your heart.
2006-11-24 08:10:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you truly feel this way approach him and tell him how you feel
he may still not want to have anything to do with you but at least you will have tried
2006-11-24 08:02:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋