My exboyfriend want to raise my unborn child as his own . the child belongs to another guy. that i do not want inthe child's life. he is a real bad person.but on the other hand i feel safe with my exboyfriend . i still have felling for my exboyfriend and i think that he would be a better father than the other guy. so now i don't know what to do.
2006-11-24 07:50:31 · 14 answers · asked by SKEETER M 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I AM NO ONE TO JUDGE YOU BUT SOUNDS LIKE YOU'RE NOT A RESPONSIBLE PERSON. WHY WOULD I WANT TO HAVE SEX WITH A REAL BAD PERSON FIRST OF ALL?
SO YOU THINK IT IS GOOD AND SAFE TO PLAY AROUND AND LATER HAVE SOME ONE ELSE CARRY WITH YOUR OWN BLAMES?
2006-11-24 07:56:09 · answer #1 · answered by robertredhot 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want to marry him and he wants to marry you, I don´t see the problem. If he wants to raise your child, let him. However, I am not sure if you are asking this because you don´t plan on telling the other guy you are having his child. In the long run, I am sure the truth will come out for that kid. If the other one wants no part in your child life that is ok. But he needs to know. Now, you don´t have to marry the real father of your baby, times have change and you should follow your heart. Marry the one whom you love and loves you.
2006-11-24 08:05:29 · answer #2 · answered by ICTgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does it matter if he wants to raise the child? You should do things for you and not for your child. It is hard, but you dont want to make a mistake in the long run and have everyone hurt in the process. Why does it matter if you marry anyone yet? Have the baby, make sure you dont get post partum, and then a year from now ask that question again. You will better know your answer.
2006-11-24 07:54:40 · answer #3 · answered by lllll 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would never marry anyone just for the sake of providing a father to a child. A child can grow up greatly whitout a father as far as you provide care and education.
Do you really want to take care of a man you don't love? Wash his dirty clothes? Discuss with him why you don't want his things spread throughout the room? Share your space and your time with a person you don't really care about? Instead of sharing it with the most important person in this story: YOUR CHILD ?
Women have been rising up their children alone for thousands of years with the support of their extended families, friends and neighbours. I think you can, but of course, this is a personal choice.
2006-11-24 08:13:27 · answer #4 · answered by Megane W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to do what is in your heart. If you go back to your ex.. please be sure that you want to do that, not just doing that because, "he will make a better father". You will inevitably end up divorced if that is the reason. BUT, don't stay with the baby's father if that is the only reason as well. Please remember the biological father has rights to the child.
Taking care of a child takes responsibility. It isn't about who will take better care of him. It is about what is right in the lives of everyone.
2006-11-24 07:59:52 · answer #5 · answered by sheristeele 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on if you want to marry this man and have a family. Is he good to your child and you ? Not many men even want women with kids , he sounds good for you especially if you are not gonna allow his biological father to be involved in the child's life. Do you still want to be single without commitment ? Talk to him and let him know how you are feeling and that you still care for him if you want to take it slow tell him if he cares he will understand.
2006-11-24 08:01:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't marry him unless you work out the problems that broke you up in the first place. It is not fair to the child if you two are fighting all the time. Talk to a minister for pre-marital counseling.
2006-11-24 07:59:10 · answer #7 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think is your child legal right toknow who his real fasther his whoever i think if you ex boyfriend want to raised as his own it should not be a problem as long as your child always know the truth trust me if you lie and he find out later in life that who he thinks was his father isnt he is going to be extremly mad with you i think your ex a you can raised hiom together like a family buit always lwtting the boy know that he has another daddy too a biological father that way you are not liying to him you are being honest with hima at the same time yoou do what you think is best for him
2006-11-24 07:55:31 · answer #8 · answered by user 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am a strong believe in only marrying someone for love, never for a baby's sake. And no offense personally but this baby's father has a right to see them weather you want them in their life or not. You honestly should have thought about that before you got pregnant, so they are a bad guy? but not bad enough to have sex with? I dont mean to jump on you or be rude, I am just saying a father has a right to see his baby
2006-11-24 07:55:25 · answer #9 · answered by Lori R 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, isn't he an ex for a good reason? I honestly can't give you a great opinion because I don't know your situation- you do. Do what you think is the best for you and your child; it may not be either of the choices you have written. God bless, and I hope you choose best!
2006-11-24 07:55:16 · answer #10 · answered by shivers_42 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋