2006-11-24 07:43:21 · 14 answers · asked by WhyWhyWhy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Maybe, just maybe, they didn't consider it help, but interference.
Maybe, they didn't need or want the "help". Possibly they felt that they could get by just fine, thank you, without the "help".
It could be that they didn't like the "helper" to begin with, and having to be grateful to someone you don't like is galling.
Or perhaps, the holier-than-thou, goody-two-shoes, superior attitude of the person trying to cram unwanted help down their throats was just too much to take!
2006-11-24 08:04:57 · answer #1 · answered by pessimoptimist 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They may hate you now. But rest assured they will love you later. I know is the hardest thing to face. Most people are never ready for someone to step in. But sometimes you have to do what you have to do. And I know you feel like you want to lose that pain like it never happened. Facts are facts. You will deal with it and you will come out of it. Scathed yes but a better person. In all aspects.
2006-11-24 08:29:22 · answer #2 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people hate so much to need the help, that accepting it is almost impossible. By helping someone like this, to them it is like acknowledging that they can't handle a situation on their own. If you are the unappreciated helper, you can have the peace of mind that you just tried to do the right thing.
2006-11-24 07:47:55 · answer #3 · answered by Robin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that it is that the person hates those who help them. I think it makes them perceive themselves as somehow inferior or insecure in their ability to solve their own problems.I think most people have experienced this feeling and we do find it difficult to admit we need help. The ability to ask for help is a sign of maturity in my opinion.
2006-11-24 07:48:21 · answer #4 · answered by gussie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They don't hate the person helping them they hate themselves for needing help and they reflect on the outside to others what they really feel for themselves on the inside, basic psychology.
2006-11-24 07:50:44 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs. Butler ♥2 B♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
think about it this way....
you don't want to need help...
help from others makes you indebted....
it's no fun to be indebted...
so you resent them...
one other way i think of it is that you
will always bite the hand that feeds you
because that is the hand that is in front of your mouth.
because of proximity.
people who help are close by...
IE
teens will hate their teachers, parents, youth leaders.
and rebel against them.
they never bother to hate the folks down the street who never come out or get involved or try to help.
in order to help you have to be a little bit close.
and when you are close the hate will get on you.
2006-11-24 07:47:18 · answer #6 · answered by Sufi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, duh, it's annoying. Seriously, most people who think they're helping, for example, tell a smoker to go on the patch and chew gum, they'll be so annoyed, because they ALREADY know that, and you're repeating the obvious and the fact that the person doesn't understand it makes things worse. People usually already know the solutions to their problems, and they hate being reminded of them, SERIOUSLY put yourself in their shoes and you'd realize that they'd find you horrible and annoying.
2006-11-24 07:49:49 · answer #7 · answered by Jenny 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
People don't usually hate them. They hate the fact that they needed help. Keep on helping.
2006-11-24 07:45:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
When people are stuck in ther own little world,they never want to here something that will bring them out of it.
2006-11-24 11:55:12 · answer #9 · answered by Willnotlietoyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want to turn a friend into an enemy? Lend them money.
2015-07-12 02:04:47 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋