I aspire to be godly and humble, but it makes my life FULL of problems and earns me disrespect?

Question

I'm a somewhat religious Catholic... I'm only in highschool, I've sinned and have had sex, but I feel God will forgive me since I believe strongly in his ability to forgive, I pray a ton and go to church nearly every week. So here's the thing, I act really nice most of the time and usually act happy and humble and fun, and aspire to be as close to God's values as possible. But the problem is no one seems to notice I have feelings, even some of my more ignorant close friends seem to accidentally jab at my ego. I know that I ACT humble, but I find it very hard to FEEL that way, I'm an attractive superficial blonde teen, so I'm jabbed at for all sorts of aspects of my personality, my teacher told me my favorite song I presented was "absolute crap" and so on. But the point is, I act so good and Christian and happy that people think I'll be able to withstand a constant barrage of strong insults and it really hurts... what do I do? No matter how religious I am, I still have human feelings.

Answer 1

being religious doesnt/shouldnt mean that you dont have feelings, in fact , because your thinking more, and more likely to be considering things around you , the world ,, you may even be more sensitive then the adverage teen girl, who is usually super sensitive,,,,,,, your concept of self is still greatly influenced by those around you, and their comments,,,,,,, i would say to try to look at yourself, your personality,,,your actions, and decide how you feel, if your happy, then be happy, and dont let others bother you,,,, while you still can strive to grown and learn and develop, allow yourself to feel ok with how you are now,,, then others opinions will matter less,,,,,,,,when others make a comment that hurts, say it hurts, let them know,,,, and also let them know you are happy with it, whatever it is,,,,,,, being humble doesnt mean taking a bunch of flack from people,,,,,,, it means even with your accomplishments, staying grounded and "down to earth" and thankfull

Answer 2

Of course you do, sweetheart! And as an imperfect human, you will likely struggle with this or similar problems all of your life. Our relationship with Jehovah is not necessarily a destination; it's a journey. We can never be sinless in this world, so just do your best! It's obvious that you think about these things, and that is the first step to change. Pray, study about God and try to get His mindset on the problems with your attitude that you feel you have, and ask Him to help you have TRUE feelings inside that match the facade on the outside. And then do YOUR part... if you catch yourself becoming ill or ugly or want to strike back at someone who has hurt your feelings, stop, drop and PRAY!! :) Soon it will become second nature to talk to God before you answer anyone, or make a move in your life, and that's a GOOD place to be! Good luck, sugar, and keep moving forward. You seem to be doing fine!

Answer 3

God never promises following Him would be an easy path. But He DOES promise to be with us every step of the way. If you have the Holy Spirit, you can talk to Him anytime, anywhere. I know it's hard. I'm a teen Christian in a public high school, too.

Once you're a Christian, NOTHING you could ever do will separate you from God. God has forgiven your past and future sins when Jesus died for you!

It will really help you if you read the Bible and pray a lot. I know you're already praying, but the Bible is essential, too. It's like the guidebook to life. Ask God to help you understand it, and I'd suggest going to a good youth group or teen Bible study. find out if there is one in your school or in your community. What helps me is if i pray at school. Not out loud, or even with my eyes shut. I just think or whisper a prayer. God can still hear you! I will be praying for you too! I have Christian friends, too, that help me. We're all in it together.I understand what you're going through. Remember that you're NOT ALONE!

Answer 4

Highschool is a really rough period. The problems you are describing are pretty universal. A lot of kids have them even who aren't religious.
From what you said, I don't think you are "superficial." You seem very sensitive and self aware.
I have met other people of all ages who have had this problem. You should know that it is not a sin to stand up for yourself. If you feel comfortable, speak your mind and your feelings and even if it doesn't come out in the perfect christian way it is very important for you to define your own personality and learn how to set boundaries. I think that you will find that in the long run this will bring you closer to God because being a confident person makes you have more confidence in your faith.

Answer 5

The bible tells you in Romans 3:23 For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God;
we all sin, no one is perfect, but you have to ask the Lord for forgiveness, and try not to do the same thing over and over again. Just because someone judges you doesn't mean that they are right, for they are not suppose to judge you, for one day they will be judged on judging you. It's hard to be a Christian and walk the way the Lord wants us to walk, but with His help you can do it. Don't let the one's who tell you can't get to you, do as the Lords tells you to do, the devil doesn't want you to do what the Lord wants you to do, he's fighting you, but don't let him win, show him that you are going to do what the Lord wants you to do and the Lord will help you. God Bless you. It's hard when you're feelings get hurt, but let the Lord deal with those who hurt you and just turn the other cheek for the Lord will take His revenge on those who harm you when it's time.

Answer 6

Being a Christian does not make you immune to criticism or the pain of it. After all, they crucified Christ. And who was better than Him?

What we have is God watching over us, PERSONALY, strengthening us so we can endure AND making even this pain work for our good.

John 16:33
Jesus said,
33 "I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world."
(from New International Version)

Rom 8:28

28 And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.
(from New International Version)

I'm not a prophet who can give you reasons why such things happen to you, BUT if you have been asking God to make you humble , or even will to be humble, then these things may the answer to your prayer. Nothing helps make us humble than having our egos brought down a few notches.
Don't consider this punishment or that God is mad at you. If he made you attractive, then he wants you to be attractive.
He loves you ....and has a good life planned for you.

Answer 7

No. they're fullyyt different circumstances. non secular jokes may be the two humorous or insulting, based upon your attitude. in fact, maximum human beings Christians will tell non secular jokes, as long as they're in sturdy flavor. yet, this is the difficulty..what one individual thinks of as humorous is insulting to a different individual. it is why incredibly some situations the jokes on right here may be very offensive and ultimately somebody comes to a decision that the offensiveness warrants a contravention observe (it is not me). Persecution isn't what occurs on right here. as a substitute persecution does take place immediately, yet greater often than not in different international places. while a individual is murdered, jailed, overwhelmed, or forced into slavery, this is persecution. Nasty comments on right that's no longer persecution. Hostility jokes and e-mails at the instant are not persecution.

Answer 8

First, Jesus promised his followers they would have problems in the world on account of being his followers. "If they hated me, they will hate you also." Being a Christian does not mean pretending things dont hurt your feelings when they do. We dont pretend we feel happy in God if we dont. I cant imagine Jesus felt very happy when they were torturing him. One key teaching in Christianity is the transformation of our affections. We start out as Christians with a great deal of self love remaining. In the beginning we are still very much concerned about what people think about us and how we look in thier eyes. As you grow in Christ it should be high priority to cry out for God to change what you value as most important. How people treat you or how God had treated you. If people's verbal abuse really bothers you, it is probably because you value their praise more than God's praise which means your heart still needs to be conformed. Anyone can ACT godly or spiritual or religious. Christianity is not about behavior modification ultimately, it is about belief modification. You said you aspire to be as close to God's values as possible. THat is not Christianity. Jesus' work on the cross was to make you close to God himself.

Answer 9

You have described me, accept for the sex and personal features. We are striving to be Christlike. So we must withstand these things that jab at the heart and soul. He came down and was a fool for us, now it is our turn. Be steadfast in your conviction, my sister, knowing I am in New Orleans doing the same. You are not alone and you have made me secure in knowing I am not alone, thank you. You are a Super Human on this planet school.
God bless us all...

Answer 10

You have four problems: 1. You're "religious." 2. You go to "church"....sometimes. 3. You "act." 4. You're trying to "feel" a certain way. Quit trying to be "act" like you're "religious," become more involved in your "church" and other Christians. And realize it's not how you "feel," but is it REAL?