2006-11-24 07:41:29 · 17 answers · asked by flag26 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
stop feeding him
--seriously, what is his motivation to do something when his basic needs are being met while he does nothing?
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Your expectations have to be made clear. As we got older, my mother established the rule that once we turned 18, we had to be full-time students earning good grades or we had to pay rent. I went to college for a while, but dropped out -- I got a job because I knew she required rent, and I also knew she wouldn't give me any money to go hang out with my friends or to put gas in my car. When I decided to go back to school, I still worked for spending money, but she didn't charge rent.
2006-11-24 07:42:35 · answer #1 · answered by HearKat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Quit buying him stuff. Seriously though, if he's naturally a loner and prefers the indoors and the comfort of his TV friends, he'll eventually come around. My youngest brother didn't get a job til he graduated high school, but he turned out to be an incredibly reliable and hard-working employee.
Is he going to college? If so, are you financing this learning expedition? Does he have a car? Is he content without one? What does he do for money? If you're providing all of his comforts, there's no need for a job. Quit supporting his habit of laziness and he'll have no choice. I can't think of many 19 year old boys in today's society who want to live a simple life without electronics and video games.
2006-11-24 13:21:38 · answer #2 · answered by elizabeth_ashley44 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is he allowed to watch tv all day? Obviously you're paying so it's your service. Cut off the cable, or at least disconnect the box in the morning and hook it up in the evening when you want to watch it - or move it to a room that's off limits to him. Do him a favour and quit being a co-dependent. You're allowing him to be lazy. Get parenting advice from a support group or do some reading on 'tough love'. Your kid needs it to make the transition from spoiled sloth to responsible adult. Otherwise you're setting him up for a lifetime of failure.
2006-11-24 08:32:55 · answer #3 · answered by Essmi d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u want a 19 yr old to get a job... and NOT let him watch tv all day.. show him how precious money is... sometimes jobs are fun..such as workin at the mall .. etc.. and DONT give him any allowance :] lol if u earn ur own money, u can spend it on w/e u wanna buy.. dats the good of it.
2006-11-24 07:45:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-13 01:05:53 · answer #5 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well , if he has the knowledge- let him sell TVs- but really- take the TV away from him maybe he will get bored and do something about it- 19- where did we as parents go wrong- he obviously has no drive to go do or be something- make him grow up!!!!!!
2006-11-25 08:30:14 · answer #6 · answered by drox 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like its time to step up to the plate and be a parent, Give no spending $$$ and sooner or later he will want something and see the need to go to work
2006-11-24 07:50:52 · answer #7 · answered by Paul S 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tough love parents as a 21 year old female i can say that being firm is all that works
2006-11-24 07:43:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
My dad threatened to kick my brother out.....and actually did. He told my brother he had to start paying rent. It worked in the long run....he still has a job!
2006-11-24 07:44:10 · answer #9 · answered by freakykittygoddess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop all financial help. None. If you don't pay for anything then hunger might prompt a job.
2006-11-24 07:50:14 · answer #10 · answered by unshure 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋