I don't know what to think!! Has anyone heard of this....?

Question

A friend of mine approached me yesterday with a concern she had about her son. He has been playing with two little girls who make him take his clothes off. He is 2 and they are 3 &4. Apparently, the little girls have "naked time" at home with their parents!!! So, they see NO problem with this!!! My friend is disgusted, and so am I because my daughter also plays with these girls sometimes as well. I personally haven't had this problem with my girl, but I am concerned it may happen. We are wondering if we should not allow our kids to play with them. And how do we approach the parents of these girls? Should we consider contacting child protection about the "naked time" or leave it be? We think it's unhealthy and just wrong? What do you think? It just seems disgusting to me!! I understand kids are curious & explore, but it seems over the line!!

And by "naked time" with their parents, I mean the parents take their clothes off too!

Answer 1

This is very weird to me. Nudity is not a big deal in our house. I don't try to cover up in front of my kids if they happen to walk in when I'm changing or getting out of the shower. My husband doesn't either. And the kids will sometimes shower with one of us if we're trying to get ready to go somewhere and are saving on time. Plus, we live in Japan and I take the kids to the community bath houses on a regular basis and everyone is naked there. So, I don't find nudity to be a big deal at all. It is natural and nothing to be ashamed of.

However..."naked time"? My children see me naked because I'm getting dressed or getting out of the shower. I don't call attention to the fact that I'm naked and when they're getting dressed I don't call attention to the fact that they're naked. I certainly don't schedule a "naked time" when we all get naked for the sake of being naked!! That sounds very strange to me and somewhat concerning. The fact that these girls are carrying the behavior over to other kids makes me think there is more going on. I think you have cause for concern but I'm not at all sure how you should proceed. I guess talk with the parents. But if there is anything going on, they certainly won't admit to it.

I wish I had some solid advice for you but i really don't. Good luck to you and your friend. I hope you find a way to handle it.

Answer 2

I know exactly what you are going through I actually experienced something like this with my 3 year old daughter except it was with a cousin that was older than her and I tried approaching the parents and nothing happened they just blew it off as kids being kids and I did not like that answer or that result so I personally got child protective services involved and needless to say things are alot different now and things a re better my daughter got the help that she needed to get over the trauma of it and the cousin has also received the help that she needed. So I really think that you need to address this and you need to get child protective services involved for the well being of the little girls that are involved in the naked time because there could be more going on that you are not aware of. So I really hope that this has helped and if you need talk then you can email me.

Answer 3

To be fair to the other parents it may be best to accompany your friend (for moral support) to have a talk with these parents. Kids have a way ofplaying out wht happens around them but as long as there is no touching your friends child when they play, might mean that the parents have a very weird way of teaching the kids to accept nudity but nothing else.

Maybe all they need is soeone to put it right in their face that its giving their children an unacceptable approach to play etc that may have the negative effect on them and may lead to abuse if they are naked in front of the wrong people.

CPS should be the last resort. Sometimes the same children we are trying to protect can end up being more hurt. CPS has been known to blow things way over the top and these parents may end up losing their children when just talking to them could have been the answer.

Keep your children away from theirs until after the conversation with them.

Answer 4

No one should be removing clothes from your child unless otherwise approved by you (changing diaper, getting them into swimwear) I wouldn't allow my child anywhere that someone didn't respect my wishes. These people are nudist, which i think is OK, however, they should never push their beliefs, or practices on someone else, especially a child. I also wouldn't allow my two year old very much unsupervised play time, his mom should be looking after him a bit better. I would never allow my child over their again, as for CPS, I don't think by being nudist they are abusing their girls, but you may want to advise your friend to pick up the phone and ask questions (that never hurts) They will tell you one way or another.

With us, public is public, and privet is privet. For example, I have 3 girls ages 3, 7, and 10. In our home all will occasionally walk around naked, i see nothing wrong with this, as long as the naked one doesn't. Our home is our domain. This means that they must be in our home, not outside. MOST IMPORTANT - Should anyone enter our home other then our immediate family (mom, dad, sisters) Our home is now in PUBLIC. This meaning they must cover up. That's how we deal with the issue of nudity.

Answer 5

Explain to the two little girls that your children, and your friend's children, may not take part in "Naked Time" and that when they all play together, they are also to keep their clothes on.

Make sure that the children play at YOUR house from now on.

Don't be disgusted, there is nothing disgusting about our bodies, but there are times when nudity is appropriate and there are times when it is inappropriate and children have to learn the rules of their family and their culture.

Answer 6

That would be too much for me. I am raising two of my grandchildren. They are ages two and three. They run around right after their bath yelling I'm naked until I catch them and clothe them but that is the end of it. I can not imagine letting my kids play at a house where the kids and the parents have "naked time".

I would be hard pressed not to report these wierdo's for abuse.

Answer 7

AHHHh.... that sets off alarms in my head. It is okay if the parents have naked time, I guess, but I dont see a need to do it. Also, at three and four the children should be taught how to be accepted in society to be happy children. They need to know right from wrong. Are they in preschool? I would ask the teacher if they have had any problems, any causes for concern.

Answer 8

I would talk to the girls and see what they have to say about it, and then use your best judgment because all children develop differently and if these girls can explain what naked time is maybe it will turn out to be nothing they could mean bath time is naked time and if it turned out to be something else I would call child services because that's nasty.

Answer 9

I'd really think about it and make a decision, but in the meantime, don't let your daughter play with them until you figure something out, just in case. If you feel you need to call Child Protection services because they may be in danger, then you should go with your gutt instinct, but don't do it just because you feel discusted by it. They may feel that freedom movement in their house where they are all comfortable with showing their bodies, but may not be "doing anything" if you know what I mean, although myself feel it's nasty too! I would never have "nakid time" with my daughter! But before doing anything drastic, do consider all your options because CPS is no joke and they do they kids away, and you'd hate to do that if nothing is going on.

Answer 10

As a mother of four I have seen and heard alot of things. And yes , this is normal behavoir of kids discovering themselves. I mean look at the times we are living in sex is all over the T.V. and even some ofthe cartoons the kids watch. As a parent it is your job to inform the parents of the kids just to make sure they are Aware of what is going on. It could be someone the kids know who has done something of that nature to them. You have every right to be concerned!