We have been in love for 4 years now but we have never had sex. Earlier she had broken with her BF which left her very traumatized. She is hot tempered and a small difference can make her avoid me for a whole month. She also easily gets irritated. She is very possesive and cannot let me chat with ohter ladies for long. Am out of the country for two months. Recently she sent me an e-mail whose contents were open and could be sent to anyone but gave no indication it was actually for me. I got mad and asked her whose message it was. Since then she has not replied to my e-mails. I trust her very much but what does this mean? Could she be having a secret affair? Please help
2006-11-24 06:55:47 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sweetie wake up.....let her go....how can you be in love with someone who is so mean.. she doesn't trust people and that means you as well.....you sound like a nice guy.......this isn't love....she isn't the one for you.....you would regret it later on down the line if you hooked up with her......she is selfish and sounds like she has some mental problems.. Please save yourself from rejection and heart ache.....move on.......
2006-11-24 07:04:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you describe your REAL situation? It's hard to guess when your questions vary the way they do. I mean, you asked TWO OTHER questions inquiring about how one determines if a girl is pleased after sex.
Doesn't that suggest a contradiction? You ARE having sex, or so it would seem.
According to a question you asked over a month ago, you were upset about a "recent" e-mail whose contents were open. Evidently, it came from the same girl. And your reaction was similar.
It's hard to imagine you in a 4-year relationship with a traumatized girl who loves you but doesn't want to have sex with you. Your story begs too many questions.
2006-11-24 07:03:04 · answer #2 · answered by Lightbringer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like my ex.
She would avoid me for months at a time, then finally i thought that everything was OK.
Then it would last 1 day, and another 4-6 months would go by with no affection warmer than an arctic blast.
Sorry.
Girls who use that for power are not meant for everyone...or something...
she may have been abused in the past, she may just be using that for a power trip, or she may be seeing another.
You could confront her about it, but then that may not even help.
I suppose I was not much help either.
When my ex finally left I was devistated for a long time...
Not even really sure why now...
We do have a daughter together.
A daughter who whether with her mom, or whoever, I have not seen in about 5 years.
The ex got a re-straining order against another ex of hers who she had a child with, and accused him of hitting her and made up a false police report to keep him away.
Yah, the B*TCH is CRAZY.
and now her NEW bo/ husband is rich, so I do not even try...
Psycho/ wealthy, versus me...I lose.
2006-11-24 07:06:34 · answer #3 · answered by gemseeker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You either trust her.. or you don't. Make up your mind. You've been together for years, that e-mail was probably for you.
As for sex, don't try to set a date. It'll happen when it happens. Unless you're her sugar daddy.. lol. If you met her in a stip club, just let it go because you're never going to get it. Otherwise, give her time. Some people wait for marriage.
2006-11-24 06:59:59 · answer #4 · answered by Rachael M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not having sex until I'm married, that doesn't mean I'm having an affair.....
You should openly ask her how she feels about having sex with you. There could be many reasons. what if she wants to wait until she knows you are going to stay with her? what if she has herpes? who knows.
as for her avoiding you for a whole month, i don't think your relationship sounds very healthy. you may want to break it off and find someone who wants to be with you
2006-11-24 06:59:17 · answer #5 · answered by carlaerickson 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You seem a decent and very understanding fella. I hope you get the siutation sorted. She sounds like she has some major issues.
Its a hard question to ask yourself, but are you sure she is with you for the right reasons ?
2006-11-24 06:58:55 · answer #6 · answered by Joe Bloggs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His sister became the only that could desire to have have been given suspended. tell the college theory with reference to the abuse she advised you, approximately how her brother became employing you and stuff. She sounds like a superb madam, i might have punched her lights out!
2016-10-17 11:55:40 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unless you want to spend the rest of your life miserable, grow a pair of balls and dump this *****. she is obviously a total pain in the ***, and loves driving you crazy. get rid of her, and you will find some new hot piece of *** that actually wants to screw your brains out all the time. don't put of with this crap. loose her.
2006-11-24 06:58:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is up to you, a break-up may be in the cards
i understand her not wanting sex, she may want to wait until marriage, but she may have a secret going on, you need to either have a sit down about it or finish it.
2006-11-24 06:58:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You very selfish man. WHen she ready, she give it to you. if you can't wait, leave her alone and find a whore. And if you can't trust her, then don't be with her. Listen to Yammaha, I know the ways of love.
2006-11-24 06:57:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋