I have a problem. I tend to chase guys and then, when they ask me out, I'm thrilled...for a week. Then I get stir crazy and have commitment problems. So I break up with them. Also, when I guys tells me he loves me it scares me, I'm only fourteen, looking for a fun guy to hang with, and when he tells me that he loves me it kinda freaks me out. Does anybody have any idea how I could stop, or stop minding? Any ideas at all on helping myself, I'm a little out of my depth.
2006-11-24 06:51:31 · 8 answers · asked by purely*imaginate 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
At 14 no one knows what love it. At your age you should be having fun and not committed there is Plenty of time for that when you are older. Just be upfront from the start . Tell guys that interest you that you just want to hang out and have fun with no committment. If you do that then you need to realize that you should pay for dinner and a movie sometimes as well. Don't take advantage.
2006-11-24 06:55:34 · answer #1 · answered by party_pam 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm 13 (almost 14) and i sorda was in the same boat. okay, see, i found this really nice guy-the best person that has entred my life. the first time he said that he loved me i was freaked out. i didn't know what say. the word "love" seems so strong, doesn't it? but i knew that i cared about him and he cared about me. it seemed like i was growing up too fast to use the word "love". i bit my lip and i thought, "he wouldn't say that if he didn't mean it. we all need to grow up and be involved with this at some point. some grow up faster then others. i just seem to be a fast mover."
that may be the case with you. just hold your tounge and think, "do i love him? do i really love him?"
if the answer is yes, tell him you love him too (which is what i did) but if your stuck just tell him you have to go, take some time to think byself and follow your heart.
don't worry if you start to really freak when a guy tells you that they love you, it's normall, or with me it is.
good luck!
need any more help e-mail me at taters821@yahoo.com
2006-11-24 15:00:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your reaction is perfectly normal. At 14 you are much too young to date just one person. Don't feel bad about getting to know lots of people. You are young and there's plenty of time before you should even think about any serious dating.
2006-11-24 14:55:43 · answer #3 · answered by notyou311 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You like the attention but not really being into stuck with a guy. You're normal, better safe than sorry.
2006-11-24 14:55:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
simple answer you are 14, relax and chill out and dont be so worried about boys. you have plenty of time for that
2006-11-24 14:56:46 · answer #5 · answered by loudiesel30 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you just don't want anything serious now and are scared of having your hearat broken so you'd rather break everyone elses' before they break yours
2006-11-24 14:55:13 · answer #6 · answered by Ms.Budonkadonk 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
stop chasing
wait and get an older more mature guy
2006-11-24 14:54:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
nope sry i have the same problem
2006-11-24 14:53:32 · answer #8 · answered by fuzzy_bubbles_13 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋