I went in august with my mom who is also my matron of honor and picked out my wedding dress. My mom called my sisterinlaw to let her know cause she was excited and my brother called my mom yelling that my sisterinlaw had the right to go because she wanted to. Well that moment passed. In oct i got married at the Justice of the peace, i wasn't going to tell anyone but my parents and his parents. But his mom told his sisters so the day before i got married i told my brother. that night i got a nasty call from him that he should have known anyway and his wife should have been the first to know because she has offered so much help with the official wedding in April,(though i didn't ask for it, knowning she would throw it back at me). Since oct 15 we haven't talked. In turn, they aren't talking to my mom either. Saying she should have told them even though we asked her not to so she didn't. My brother thinks he deserves an apology from our mom and I. I think we deserve one! ??????
2006-11-24 06:36:48 · 13 answers · asked by catdogpenny 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
So SIL wants to feel special! I know the pains of ILS, It's your wedding not theres. I don't think you did anything wrong! You've got guts!
2006-11-24 06:40:23 · answer #1 · answered by Monet 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My brother and his wife are like this, too. But when it comes down to actualling DOING something, we can never count on them. So, here is my take on it.
If you're happy, then it doesn't matter as much. Maybe your mother is owed an apology, and you'd think another adult would just be glad you are finding someone to be happy with. But the most important thing is that you have done what you know in your heart to be the right thing. If you have, then forgive him for acting like a lesser civilized being, and move on. If he matures enough to remember that you love each other, he will come to his senses. But if he doesn't, you will have the peace of mind that you did what you could. That's what matters most.
Happy Thanksgiving!
2006-11-24 06:42:44 · answer #2 · answered by cdvpruthe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
apologize for crying out loud. You have a brother and you cant exchange him now nor can you exchange his wife. Get it out of the way for these things can escalate and destroy families. Whats a little pride when it comes to families. You are probably right when you say he should apologize but being right is not everything. being forgiving is greater and more just. In the end you will earn his respect. One thing though, word your apology carefully so that you make your point at the same time, but dont belabor it
2006-11-24 06:41:26 · answer #3 · answered by beyondyu 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if i understand the question right,your brothers wife got all butt hurt because only your mother and you went shopping for the matron of honors dress which is your mother?well I don't think you had to share that moment with her and that is dumb of them to get mad.and if nobody else was invited to the hall of justice wedding but the parents of groom and bride I don't see the big deal.I could see if you invited the whole family and not your brothr and wife then yes they have the right to be mad.But from what I understand your right...
2006-11-24 06:42:47 · answer #4 · answered by juicy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow.. I can understand both sides.. your brother is just mad that you would concider telling him even though no one was supposed to know he and his wife should have knowned.. put your self in his place.. and in return ask him to put himself in yours. maybe the both of you could use an apology.
Brothers and Sisters fight all the time jsut kiss and make up life is to short and you all have a lifetime of memories to makeup for this little spiff.
Everything Bless!
2006-11-24 06:44:49 · answer #5 · answered by californiabaybe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's being a baby, and the whole situation is completely over with by now. So 'apologize', try to sound sincere, then keep in mind that he will probably keep on acting like a baby forever.
By the way, I agree with you 100% Your business is your business, not his, but what's done is done, so you can't change it even if you wanted to. Either way, the joke's on him.
2006-11-24 06:42:45 · answer #6 · answered by therealj5girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you both need to realize what is important in this situation and not get so caught up in your own emotions. Put yourself in his (and his wife's) shoes for a moment and decide whether or not they have the right themselves to be feeling this way. If it makes since then sit down and rationalize this situation as best u both know how. This seems to petty to me to dwell on.
2006-11-24 06:41:50 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ ღAngelicaღ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but your brother dosn't need to know anything that u don't want to tell him. That's something you wanted quiet and there's nothing wrong with that. He can't demand that he or his wife should know anything. Now he probably feels left out or maybe your trying to leave his wife out on purpose. i don't know but to stop talking to your mom now that's really out of line. Maybe u should try talking to him it shouldn't be that way with family. but i don't think your in the wrong. Anything that's about u personal or not, it's your decision to tell whoever u want. hope all turns out good.
2006-11-24 06:46:53 · answer #8 · answered by Pisces chik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your brother and sister-in-law needs to grow up..you don't owe anyone an apology and neither does your mom..she was only doing what you had asked her to do since that was "your" day..you can ask anyone or tell anyone about your wedding..don't let this bother you or your mom..when he grows up, he'll be calling you back..he and his wife needs to apologize for being such kids..
2006-11-24 06:43:05 · answer #9 · answered by becca j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is a disagreement worth you and your family not talking? make the first move and apologize and i am sure he will return the apology, you have to decide if your pride is worth more than your family
2006-11-24 06:41:05 · answer #10 · answered by Lucky#11 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋