long story, but bear with me, we love each other, but no way to marry her or any other woman, for many reasons, but now after long time, she wants this relation to be serious (marriage), the only way for this relation is to break up, now she wants to know why this relation cannot be "serious", my reasons are that she is couple of years older than me, and we don't think in the same way, and because i'm not planning to marry any woman in the next 10 years, and i don't want her to wait, AND, i cannot hurt her feelings, she is very sensitive.
what should i tell her? i don't think its wise to talk about age thing, or thinking way, help meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!!!!! (by the way, don't even try to ask me to tell her i'm gay, which i'm not! )
2006-11-24 06:36:13 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow - this is a tough situation. Since your mind is made up, I hope you tell her sooner rather than later. First, call her and tell her that you need to have a serious conversation with her in person. When you meet with her, be direct, but sensitive to her feelings.
Tell her that you are ending the relationship before any more feelings get hurt. Tell her you appreciate the time you've spent together and that she will always be an important person in your life, but that you don't see marriage as part of the future for the both of you. Reassure her that your decision has nothing to do with what you think of her as a person. Tell her that you will always care for her and respect her and that you will miss the relationship, but be sure to reinforce that you know in your heart that a marriage between the both of you won't work out.
If she insists on knowing why (which she very well may), tell her that despite the strong chemistry you have together, there are a few things that you both disagree about and you see that affecting the relationship in the long run. To bring up age will appear shallow...particularly if she is only a few years older than you as you say she is...because if it's true love, that that wouldn't matter.
Good luck.
2006-11-24 06:44:26 · answer #1 · answered by ♪ ♥ ♪ ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off ... if your not wanting marriage than stay out of serious relationships ... second ... you told her you didn't want marriage .. that should've been a clue for her ... but we women think we can change your minds ... if you are not wanting marriage use that ... just say ... " I love you but I don't want to be married nor do I want to hold you back from someone who can give you what you want and even though I know this isn't just my decision I need for us to break up and just know I will have a special place in my heart for you and wish you all the best!!"
Hope that helps
2006-11-24 14:41:55 · answer #2 · answered by emnari 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Goodbye!
2006-11-24 14:39:13 · answer #3 · answered by Wicus v 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
tell her you need your space to get yourself back on track.
2006-11-24 14:43:24 · answer #4 · answered by ladybug 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋