He's a huge "Gay people need to be killed" fan. Everything that comes out of his mouth has to do with being gay(in a bad way). and I wanna tell him to change his oppinion cause ALL of my friends are gay in some way (Gay Bi Lesbian) and I'm not able to bring them around the house because of that.Please give me some ideas.
2006-11-24 06:34:23 · 14 answers · asked by x_cutz_x 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Unless you are truly dating both sexes simultaneously or bringing home your dates, I see absolutely no reason as to why your parents should have to know about your bisexuality. I also am bisexual and well, telling others in my family is not a priority... my wife knows and has known since before we married, so that is all that that really matter. My parents don't need to know about my bedroom habits and neither do yours, however, if you feel ashamed of concealing it, bi all means, tell him, but break it to him gently, directly and explain that this is who you really are... not just doing it to get back at him. Good luck.
2006-11-26 16:19:22 · answer #1 · answered by azcuriousm4u 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If your dad has a strong opinion against gays there is a low probability that he will change his opinion just by telling him that you are gay. Telling him will only cause more resistance. I still don't understand the urge of society of requesting the gay/bi community to "come out of the closet" with everyone in their way. Is your dad and your mom telling you what they do with their sexual life? You should only share your sexuality with those who have the maturity and ability to respect it.
If my family doesn't like my friends because they are black, hippies, or gay I won't take my friends home because I want everyone to feel comfortable. There are many other comfortable places to hang out.
2006-11-24 06:55:08 · answer #2 · answered by gsegurah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am also Bi sexual and my dad is totally against anything that does not conform to his simple minded southern head. I have tried over the years to tell him I was bi ( actually I went for the most shocking and told him I was a lesbian) but I never get my point across. I tried the whole I love Melissa Etheridge thing then the whole meet my "girlfriend" thing after both those failed I showed him my myspace page which has me as bi on it.....Then last but not least I said dad did you know I date girls...and like it...Even with all that said my dad still ignores the fact that his precious darling is bi....sometimes its better to let them learn on their own...Please think seriously about this decision especially if you live with him...I do not believe in hiding who you are at all but I also do not believe in flaunting who you are to get a shock out of someone or to upset them....Just make sure you are doing this for the right reason. As for your friends , I say bring them around and let him get to know them and make his own opinion of them without telling him that they are gay....Let him like them for who they are not a title placed on their sexuality.
2006-11-24 10:45:13 · answer #3 · answered by bambam0229 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is it any of his business? I never went around telling my parents that I was straight. I was perfectly happy to have left it un-said. If he's that much of a bigot, all you'll do is enrage him, or devastate him, and it won't bring the two of you any closer. So I ask again... why tell him at all?
2006-11-24 06:39:29 · answer #4 · answered by Stretchy McSlapNuts 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no easy way to do this. So just go for the purest simple factual statement. Sit him down, say you got somethign to say. Then say it.
Then you gotta ride the reaction like a rollercoaster, but you'd have that even if you'd sugar coated it.
2006-11-24 06:38:37 · answer #5 · answered by rchlbsxy2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just keep asking him why he dislikes gays but don't drop any hints of yourself being gay yet. Then show him some of your friends but don't tell him they are gay, so your dad starts liking your gay friends and surly your dad will see that they fine. Then you can tell him your friends are gay and yourself is to!
2006-11-24 06:40:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you stated his opinion so i doubt you can change it. however, this is your life and if you tell him is it really gonna make him change his mind? i don't think so, so if you tell him tell him because you want to not because you want him to have your beliefs. who's right who's wrong? it not for no one to judge. why do you have to announce this persons bi? just have company over and act with respect in his presence.remember you cant please everyone including family. this is my honest point.
2006-11-24 06:45:16 · answer #7 · answered by shiznick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being that your father is so homophobic, this secret might be best kept to yourself. What good would it do for your relatioship with him?
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2006-11-24 07:16:56 · answer #9 · answered by sean s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he doesn't know their preferences, why bring it up. you can't always tell by looking. sounds like the problem is a dysfunctional family.
2006-11-24 06:37:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋