My 8 month old, yes an 8 month old was crying because she was overwhelmed by all of the people yesterday at thanksgiving and she was tired. My brother in law was telling her whinning is for wimps!!! I couldn't believe it, they don't have children, but they talk down to my 2 yr old who is very smart for his age and my 8 MONTH OLD!! I couldn't believe it! They are very rude, and My sister in law always looks to my brother in law for approval. Like when someone makes a funny comment or just a normal one, she looks at him and gives him this look like she is better than all of us. I talked to my mother in law and told her of this dilemmia in the past, and she told me if he does it more than talk to him about it, because I might hurt his feelings...HURT HIS FEELINGS? WHAT ABOUT OUR FEELINGS AND OUR CHILDRENS FEELINGS! My two yr old called my brother in law Uncle Matt instead of Uncle Eric and he said things likes you are such a mama's boy, a baby and my son started to cry. What to do?
2006-11-24 06:29:18 · 13 answers · asked by fourcheeks4 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
They are 26 and 23, and not an active role in our children's lives and they live not even 15 mins away from us. I have a brother in Australia, brother in Nebraska, and a brother in California who cares about the children more than he does, and they don't even have kids!
2006-11-24 07:04:03 · update #1
Your brother in-law and sister in-law sound way too familiar. My brother in-law DOES have kids, but his child is very spoiled and he's not a good dad, but when he's around my daughter, he gets really defensive of his daughter and says that my daughter "isn't really doing anything special for her age"..and so on. I got really offended by that because it's rude. I don't say anything to him about his kids, but he feels he can talk about my daughter. So I said something and so did my husband because that's his brother. Speak up! Your children are depending on YOU to defend them because they are too young to defend themselves. Don't let them be jerks, especially to your kids. They are being rude, especially doing it infront of other people. Children are sensative and they are developing their self esteem at that age, and for them to not take into consideration the impact on your and your children, it's outragious behavior on their behalf. I suggest you sit them down and talk to them in private before you make a shout out in front of people, because that would just be stooping to their level. Remind them (because obviously they have lack of knowledge!) that your children are very young and kids will be kids and babies will CRY! especially when they are uncomfortable or confused by a lot of chaos or people being around. Holidays are always hard on my daughter and she's 10 months! She doesn't understand why so many people are around and she can't be at home sleeping in her own bed instead of being at someone's house. So knock some sense into them. If they still don't get it, then they need to know how it feels to be embarrassed in front of others so call them on their "joke" and make it your own next time. See who likes it then.
2006-11-24 07:50:09 · answer #1 · answered by SugarCoatedAngel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares about THEIR feelings. To pick on a child is immature, unfeeling, and hateful. They both have a serious problem. I would be telling them where to go and how to get there really quick. They have NO RIGHT to be speaking down to an innocent child!! If this is happening in YOUR home, I would kindly kick them out. If you are anywhere else, just get up and leave and say you don't need to tolerate an immature pig thinking he is a BIG MAN picking on a child. If this doesn't stop him....well then tough luck FOR HIM....He doesn't need to be around your kids if he can't show a little decency and RESPECT....and neither does your sister in law!!
2006-11-24 07:47:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he trying to be funny? Impress everyone else? I know some people like that- trying to be funny but they come across really rude. The best thing for you to do is to come out and say how you feel. Don't pretend like you are okay with it. Don't let it go if it is going to bother you and he does it every chance he gets. I've found that in awkward situations like this there is always one person that doesn't want to make a scene by saying something but you need to. You don't have to be rude about it, but just tell him you don't appreciate him talking to your kids like that and that he isn't funny, etc. How old are your brother and sister in law? They sound pretty immature if they have to make everyone else uncomfortable in order to have a good time. Have you talked to your husband about it?
2006-11-24 06:46:43 · answer #3 · answered by abcdefg123456 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd go with the creepy brother or sister in law. It is much easier to tell them not to let the door hit them on the way out. Parents deserve much more respect so you have to tolerate them a lot more than siblings. Imma bout to open up a can whuppass on my brother in law the next time he comes out the side of his neck wit some bull shet.
2016-05-22 22:40:58 · answer #4 · answered by Stephanie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just say, "Do you realize that she's a baby? Oh, wait, I forgot. You don't know anything about children." The hell with his feelings. He has the hide of a rhino if he acts that way. Don't let him get away with it. And tell your child right in front of him that Uncle Eric likes to bully little kids. It's true. If you don't stand up for your children, who will? You have to protect them from cruel people like this couple.
2006-11-24 06:40:09 · answer #5 · answered by notyou311 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to defend your children. They have to see that if somebody hurts them then mom is there to protect them. If you just smile want peace, it could happen that your chidren will start to not tell you their problems because they feel you will not defend them.
If they only live 15mon aways- throw them out!!!!! Tell them its your house, your family, and if they can act like evolved human beings, then they will have to stay away. You have the responsibilty to bring up healthy happy children, and when they are around it impossible, so they have to stay away until they know how to act like adults.
Be friendly and stern, so they realize you really mean it.
2006-11-25 00:21:08 · answer #6 · answered by eidunotno 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares about his feelings. Next time he says something ask him in front of everyone if it makes him feel like a big man to put down a 2 year-old. That will shut him up!
2006-11-24 06:34:59 · answer #7 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Quietly let them know the impact of their behavior without embarrassing them in front of others. Let them know that you are sure that they did not know the impact of their actions but now that they do you need this behavior to stop.
If it does not stop, then I say, embarrass them to your hearts content and defend yourself by saying that you tried to do it quietly.
If it still does not stop, appeal to the mother of this rude person (the grandmother of your kids) to make it stop or you will not be able to inflict this behavior on your kids.
Good Luck, you are doing a good job advocating for your kids!
2006-11-24 06:41:51 · answer #8 · answered by anirbas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your mouth broken? Is your husband's mouth broken?
You simply say, "We don't approve of our children being spoken down to, please stop it." If the ignorant oaf doesn't get the message, then pack up and go home.
If they want to make a fuss and big production, let them. You are responsible for your children's welfare and well being, not a nitwit adults.
2006-11-24 06:45:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you say your two year old is very smart for his age
so i think your brother in law resents the fact that this
child is clever ....show me the child and i ll show you the adult he will put your brother in law in his place one day believe me good luck
2006-11-24 07:53:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋