My mother in law has been with us 2 weeks and is staying to early Feb. It was fine @ 1st now shes buttin in like crazy & my husband dances around her not to piss her off.
This morning my husband & 5 yr old went to McDonalds 4 breakfast and my son was in shorts a tee and sandals its 72* and she was bitchen that it was too cold what for him to walk to the driveway and back? Im going crazy Its not like they were outside shopping or anything and then she mutters under her breath thats why your kids are always sick. I dont remember the last time any of them were sick.
2006-11-24 06:10:02 · 17 answers · asked by peek-a-boo 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
She is staying because it was my sons 5 bday end Nov. and then Thanksgiving then Christmas then my oldest is turning 10 early January and we are due for our 4th child Jan. 21 and my youngest is turning 1 early Feb. So she just thiught shed stay and "help out" instead of coming and going through my sons 1st bday.
2006-11-24 06:32:43 · update #1
Not sure why she hasn't been talked to by your husband if she's causing so much stress on you as a PREGNANT mom! That's enough to make you go into pre-term labor! I feel for you, you must be a strong woman to take in your MIL, especially during the holidays with kids and a baby on the way. Your husband needs to step up and tell her in a nice way to lay off or she can leave because she's not being a help, but more of a stress on you. You obviously know how to take care of a household, or your home would be in chaos. What did you do before she arrived? You obviously didn't "need" her very badly. My MIL does that same thing during summer...."why doesn't your daughter wear shoes? She needs some socks on. She's hot. She's too cold." etc. So I know how you feel. They always think the way they raised their kids is the right way because their kids turned out fine, but reality is every child is different and every mother will learn in her own way what's best for her child, she obviously had to learn somehow too, without her MIL down HER back. So hopefully you can talk to your dear husband and have him talk to her so better what's going on! I feel for you!! Hope that helps some.
2006-11-24 07:55:55 · answer #1 · answered by SugarCoatedAngel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm not a mother in law, but I am a mother. Your mother in law is just paranoid that the children well catch a cold. It might be 72 degrees outside, but there might of been a chilly wind outside at the time. If you are cold then your child is cold, if hot the same way. If you are fine, your child should be fine. Tell her that if they get sick, You will take care of the children, because you are the parent and the child is your responsibility not hers. She can give advice when asked for it. Tell her that your children are healthy and if she wants the children to wear warmer clothes, tell her to buy them.
2006-11-24 14:18:40 · answer #2 · answered by fourcheeks4 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seem to me that she is just trying to to help, she is older than you are and she's just letting you know that it was too cold, for the boy to be outside, I agree, Not ever one has a good mother-in-law, but I'm one of the luck ones. You do have a lot of children, so she's just thinking about there welfare, making sure that you have time fot yourself.
2006-11-24 17:22:16 · answer #3 · answered by This is just my opinion! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's hard, but try to ignore her if possible. Let her comments roll off your back. It could an even worse situation if you guys starting fussing with each other and she is planning to stay until February. I'm not saying to bend over backward to please her, but just say, matter of factly, that the kids are fine in shorts if it's that warm. Don't get defensive and don't let her know she gets under your skin.
2006-11-24 14:17:35 · answer #4 · answered by LHA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that colds are not actually caused by kids not dressing warm, they are caused by viruses that they pick up just about anywhere, and 72 degrees is perfect for shorts and sandles...wish is was 72 where I lived!
2006-11-24 14:17:05 · answer #5 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my mother in law is f*cking crazy like that too i would just talk to her and put your (and your husbands) foot down you are gonna have to talk to her or she is going to think that you don't mind that she tells you what to do or give more and more unsolicited advice....if she listens then your lucky my mother-in-law will NOT listen to either me or my husband she is practically raising him also so if you don't want it to go to far then BOTH of y'all need to talk to her
2006-11-24 14:16:01 · answer #6 · answered by allymay04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thank God for my mother-in-law! I would talk to my husband about it and make him help me. I hate confrutations myself. You have to stand your ground, and argue back if need be.
2006-11-24 14:17:08 · answer #7 · answered by stephanie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ooh.. i can't stand mil that are like that.. its so difficult for the wives... try to ignore her as much as possible.. it makes you look better in the long run.. and anything you say she will use against you by telling her son..
2006-11-24 14:12:48 · answer #8 · answered by yo mama 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Grin and bear it. That's what mother in laws are for.
2006-11-24 14:52:10 · answer #9 · answered by flushing06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to explain to her how you feel. cold doesnt make people sick, germs do! let her know she had her turn raising kids, but this is your show!
2006-11-24 14:13:27 · answer #10 · answered by snickerdoodle30 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋