I don't know what to do. My fiance and I opened a business together, and the business is doing VERY well. But we just CAN NOT work well together. Every day we're fighting. I'm crying. We take issues home with us. We're never getting along. this is supposed to be the best time of our lives! Plannig our wedding. But lately, I can hardly stand to cuddle with him or much less get intimate with him because of all the resentments I have againt him from work!!!! No matter how many times we try and talk about issues that come up, we both see them differently, and the same situation will be remembered differently from both up us. It's a dead end road. Working together may be temporary until I get another job, or he goes back to a previous one... or maybe we can work this out ( hopefully we can work this out and just keep working together ) either way, we're going to have to figure something out together for the next few months at least. Can someone help us please? Thanks! I'd appreciate it!
2006-11-24 05:28:21 · 6 answers · asked by ghmcypaa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If you have the time, and the finances, try some couples counseling. This could be helpful with the wedding planning, marriage and the work related issues too. If the budget is tight look to your church, if you have one, or try some local counseling places - some provide a sliding scale based on income.
Keep the lines of communication open. Talk to your mate about what bothers you. Be positive, using words like I" I feel" rather than "you make me feel". Look at the things that bug you the most (pick your battles here) and discuss each one, coming to an agreement on how you can alleviate the issue. For example, my finace (we work in the same office now) will suddenly start speaking to me regardless if I am on the phone or in the middle of reading an email. I asked him to please turn to look at me before he interrupts and that seems to have done the trick.
Good luck - it's not easy but it is doable!
2006-11-24 05:38:23 · answer #1 · answered by weddingqueen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is the business one where you could do any computer work at home or something else, so you wouldn't have to around him all day?
IS there anyway you can work in a seperate place during working hours? Change things up a bit.
MOST of all, you both have to sit down and talk about leaving work at work, once you get home.
IF your both an owner, then your both the BOSS...............sounds like one is trying to over boss the other way too much.
IT's really hard to give you any real good advice, sense we don't know what kind of company..............because there could be different solutions for different situations.
2006-11-24 13:51:11 · answer #2 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love and business don't mix. What happens on one side affects the other: Trouble at work causes trouble at home. But, what if everything is good at work, and all of a sudden goes bad at home? Like a divorce? Business could go all haywire, or worse.
My recommendation: Drop the business project - specially since it's proven that you don't get along in that dimension.
2006-11-24 13:41:22 · answer #3 · answered by Marker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never work with your spouse. It just doesn't work.
Find things that you both can do but don't interact during work.
2006-11-24 13:42:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you only have three choices. if the business is successful, break up with him and stay in business. or have him buy our your share and stay together. or break up and fold the business.
2006-11-24 13:33:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Never mix business with pleasure!"
2006-11-24 14:24:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋