My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year now. We love each other very much and he has told me we are going to get married. Right now he is going through tech school for the Air Force and is super stressed. Last night we were on the phone and kinda in an arguement but not really he was talking about going over seas and I started to cry he breaks down and says I cant do this anymore. Saying he loved me and needed me so much but he felt like he was hurting me and couldnt listen to me cry ( he cheated once and he said he has hurt me to much) He kept talking about how he never seem to have enough time but comming home and talking to me was the best part of his day. End of the convo he told me he wanted to work on this. So do you think he does want to break up with me or is he really just super stressed?
2006-11-24 05:14:10 · 11 answers · asked by SunShineBabe 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Most likely,he is superstressed. Going to tech school along with regular military duties puts a person under a lot of pressure.
Slow down and take things one at a time. He might have to go overseas after school. He cheated on you and that hurt both of you,now he is facing the prospect of going overseas and that will hurt both of you again because it will be more difficult to talk on the phone or see each other except over the internet.
2006-11-24 05:29:09 · answer #1 · answered by Ralph T 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's damn stressed, but at the same time, that can't be the excuse for cheating you.
Crying on him for his choice doesn't help him, or you, at all. That will make him feel that you are captureing him.
He has to feel freedom, and wanted to feel cured by being with you. You can't be the stress for him.
Yes, you need to compromise. And if there comes a limit where you can't take it, like he's going to another country without you for years, you should say you can't do this any more, from your side.
Than, I think, he will start thinking more.
2006-11-24 05:41:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like both of you are going through a rough time, why not give each other time and space to think? i guess he might be really stressed as he is torn between love and studies. both of these aspects are important so i guess maybe he needs time to work things out. But however, do look out for signs to see if he really wants to break up with you. all the best! and hope it helps! (=
2006-11-24 05:21:00 · answer #3 · answered by jt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody on this Answers should be able to give you the answer you are looking for unless your b/f happens to answer it, but I doubt that will happen if he doesn't have enough time. You need to discuss this with him and find out what is really going on. You obviously love him to much or are scared of getting hurt if you kept him around after he cheated. My fiancee' cheated on me and even though I stilled loved her so much I wouldn't take her back ever. Good luck. Later....L.G.
2006-11-24 05:49:59 · answer #4 · answered by michael a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Air Force is very stressful (trust me I have a friend in the AF). He just under a lot of stress and he doesn't know what he is saying. He just needed to blow off steam and you were the person that he blew his steam off at. Don't take the fight personal, work though it. Good luck to you both. ROCK ON!!
2006-11-24 05:18:26 · answer #5 · answered by celloman2007 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's really stressed, dear. Everyone is these days. Give it some time, and be there for him when he needs to talk. Don't rush into things, because you could make a mistake. Just slow down, calm down and everything will be alright.
2006-11-24 05:17:09 · answer #6 · answered by Jenyfer C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think as long as you give him what he wants he will keep you hanging he cheated ones and he will cheat again. Go find a man who you can cheat on him than tell him or make it up and see how he feels. If he goes out of the country kiss him good by he will find other woman where he goes/
2006-11-24 05:18:47 · answer #7 · answered by ronald r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's almost impossible to say but as a guess I would say super stressed.
2006-11-24 05:17:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like he's really stressed from school. and that he loves you very much.
2006-11-24 05:30:31 · answer #9 · answered by talk_to_the_hand!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is stressed out, sometimes when you are stressed you say things you dont mean.give him another chance dont presser him let him do what he can do for now.
2006-11-24 05:24:13 · answer #10 · answered by annjilena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋