i love my boyfriend to bits. we been together for 9 months and i've never been happier. except i can't seem to be able to trust him. if he talks to another girl of enything i get jealous. i dont know how to stop and im scared he'l leave me because of it. he is the most honest person i know an i know he would never do anything i was uncomfortable with but theres always that doubt in the back of my mind that he'l meet someone else. i know i will trust him someday but its been 9 months and its starting to push him away. can anyone help me with this??
2006-11-24 05:11:25 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you need to change your attitude on life. Enjoy him for now, you can't predict the future and its not fair to. If you know he's honest and loves you. Love him back. I've been in the same position and i pushed him so far, he did cheat. Be happy and enjoy the moment. xxx sorry i'm not much help. good luck x
2006-11-24 05:46:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you had bad relationships in the past? If so, that could be where your issues with trust stem from. You could try stting down with your boyfriend and having a serious talk to get everything out in the open.
It's also possible that your issue comes from a much deeper, more painful source. Were you abused as a child and are now afraid to trust any man at all? If talking to your boyfriend doesn't help, you could try seeing a therapist who will help you figure out the problem.
2006-11-24 05:15:36 · answer #2 · answered by Kristy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I too had the same problem with a girlfriend of mine, and in the end I decided that she wasn't the one for me, as trust is a huge thing in a relationship, and if you have these doubts then its always going to eat away at you. I'm sorry to make it sound so harsh,
hope you can find a way to solve this issue in a way that makes you very happy,
love n light xx x
2006-11-24 05:15:28 · answer #3 · answered by andi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand completly bcs I get jealous too & I only trust my best guy friend. But the truth is that if he's been there and honest for the past 9 months then he's been real. Don't worry about it.
2006-11-24 05:14:53 · answer #4 · answered by ¤My Goodies¤ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you are just being jealous for nothing, isnt it that your boyfriend is the most honest person in the world? then if its like that then you dont need to fear anything. maybe there is something you are noticing in his behaviour that you are doubting btu if everthing is ok, then just go with the flow and dont worry too much about other things and the time it has taken for you to trust your man.
2006-11-24 05:27:48 · answer #5 · answered by Ayati 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You haft to trust him. He loves you and he wouldn't leave you for anyone eles. Why would he? Also talk to him and explain that you get jealous sometimes. He will help you and make things better for you. Good luck. ROCK ON!!
2006-11-24 05:15:29 · answer #6 · answered by celloman2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you need to do is get some self-esteem and confidence, you would know that he only has eyes for you and you would feel safe to let him be friends with others. You are not jealous - you are insecure!
2006-11-24 05:14:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is about your self-esteem not your trust in your boyfriend. you say that you kow he wouldn't do anything to make u uncomfortable hunny - trust your instincts and ask him for help in building up your confidence
good luck ~x~
2006-11-24 05:15:08 · answer #8 · answered by mousie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem really insecure. If he's with you, then he obviously likes you, and wants to be with you. If you can't realize that, then you are on your own.
2006-11-24 05:15:19 · answer #9 · answered by Jenyfer C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if hes the 'most honest person youv known' then i don't see why you can't trust him.
2006-11-24 05:14:36 · answer #10 · answered by :D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋