ok my boyfriend and i used to be very sexual... we used to watch porn together... I am bisexual and have always wanted to have a threesome with him but he absolutely wont... its like he is discusted by it.. and now he doesnt even watch porn and claims to never masterbate... and worse I feel like I cant even watch porn around him or talk about it... if I talk about sex in general too much i get looks and an attitude from him..I dont get it... please someone tell me why he would be like this? I know he is not cheating.. he has no opportunity to... and he swears he is still very attracted to me... I know he is not happy with his looks right now (weight) but that doesnt bother me... could this really be the reason his sex drive is next to nothing?
2006-11-24 05:05:38 · 14 answers · asked by unsatisfied 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yeah, he was probably irritated out by the bisexual and threesome thing. Sorry, but some people are just like that. Threesomes really are sort of... not for everyone, so if you approached him about it that could be the reason for him getting "wierd." Either he was uncomfortable with the idea (i.e. grossed out), or he feels that he is not enough for you sexually. So tell him that that is not true, that he is enough for you.
Now, about the porn. No matter what people say, it doesn't mean he's gay or he's lying. I never look at porn either. It simply is out of my belief system and I cannot stand the lack of respect it represents. His reason might be the one you mentioned, but I doubt it has to do with your weight. Just give him time and space, you might have to lay off the sex for awhile until he's back to the old guy, or a slightly different one.
If he doesn't change, then is the time to talk to him about sex, etc. Then take it from there.
2006-11-24 05:11:18 · answer #1 · answered by Aegor R 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
girl you should be glad that he dosent like to watch porn. Why do you want to have a three some is it jus for experiments. give him some time he may come around he is probably going through something mental you need to sit him down and talk to find out what is going on. how could you be xo sure that he is not cheatin on you please
2006-11-24 13:12:39 · answer #2 · answered by brownie 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, probably the 3some made him discourage because in the first place he doesnt what it. You should be proud of your bf he only like 1 partner in bed and dont think that his weight made him next to nothing.
2006-11-24 13:16:18 · answer #3 · answered by luckyman 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's bored with sex and probably just wants to love you in the context of actually getting to know you, outside of a sexual attraction. Also, he's not a perv.
2006-11-24 13:10:55 · answer #4 · answered by S. Elizabeth 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Possible. Low self esteem maybe.Good Luck
2006-11-24 13:12:32 · answer #5 · answered by Dinasor76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he only wants to be with you, and it makes him uncomfortable to talk about things like that. Some people are just not that open about sex.
2006-11-24 13:11:37 · answer #6 · answered by michelle b 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think he was hurt by you saying you might be interested in the three-some thing. even if he wont admit it, a guy hears three-some as... i need another person to help satisfy me. maybe you should tell him that you are sorry for that comment and let him know he can satisfy you all by himself.
2006-11-24 13:09:38 · answer #7 · answered by Btieti 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you should be happy that he wants to have sex with just you and not some other person that you want to bring into the bedroom. maybe hes just grown up more than you have and is tired of doing such childish things.
2006-11-24 13:08:00 · answer #8 · answered by jrtootsiepop 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Some people are shy about having sex or about people seeing their naked body.
2006-11-24 13:11:05 · answer #9 · answered by moose 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I guess he's gone weird on you. Find a guy who likes what you like.
2006-11-24 13:09:08 · answer #10 · answered by bad_bob_69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋