how can i get to see my grandchilren even just for a few
hours at christmas my daughter in law wont let them i
have missed out i am their nanny i love them and i have
had to give their xmas presents away to other children
anyone else in same situation
2006-11-24 04:52:20 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Did you tell your son that you have gifts? Try showing up at their house with the presents in tow. If that doesn't work call the fire department and tell them the house is on fire, it's coming from the basement, and when everyone is evacuated, give the kids their presents!
2006-11-24 04:58:14 · answer #1 · answered by jimppanzee 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am in the same position as you. I have not seen my eldest grandson since he was 4months old and is now nearly 3 and has a little brother 4 weeks old. I am looking into my rights at the moment at getting some sort of visitation even if it is only a couple of hours per month. Disputes between the daughter in law's and mother in law's should not interfere with a relationship between Grandparents and Grandchildren. Good luck.
2006-11-25 23:24:56 · answer #2 · answered by Lellyc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are blood relatives, Grandparents have legal rights. You may have to go to court to get visitation, but it will be worth it for you and for them. Don't be afraid. Grandparent's love and support is instrumental, and it sounds as if things can't get worse with your daughter-in-law anyway. Oh, she'll be mad. But oh well! Even if your son is adopted you still have grandparent legal rights. See a lawyer, and look up some stuff about it for your state on the net.
2006-11-24 13:02:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend in the same situation. It just tears her apart, especially at the holidays. She sends presents, but she thinks the other grandmother takes the tags off and takes credit for it. She really doesn't think the kids even know that they send them anything. And, as for visiting, forget it. It's not even discussed. It breaks my heart to watch her and her husband.
I count my blessings every day that I am close to my grandkids. I can't imagine not having them in my life. Good luck.
2006-11-24 12:58:45 · answer #4 · answered by Momma Jo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Muhahahahaha! You can sue for Grandparent custody. I read about this and The grandparent was a horrible person who molested his son and the son told his wife about it and she didn't want the grandparent to be near the child, but she and her husband divorced and she didn't want her husband to take the children and the court ordered that she have full custody and then the grandparent filed for grandparent custody and he was awarded it, because his son denied that his father molested him. So yes, I would sue the mother, who cares about her, your grandchildren are important and you have to show them that you didn't give up and you fought and won the battle to have time for the grandchildren
2006-11-24 13:47:12 · answer #5 · answered by fourcheeks4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things are fine, but If my mom ever tried to take me to court to see my kids it would be the end of any relationship with all family close to her. I understand that it is grandma and grandpa, but they are MY kids not my moms!!! I think that if any legal action is taken it will hurt more than help and she would probably fight even harder. Think if there will be a court order for you to see your grandchildren and your daughter in law didn't follow, the kids would be hurt because of whatever punishment the court would give to her for noncompliance. Talk with her......
2006-11-24 23:23:15 · answer #6 · answered by trey6z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately not all states reconnize Grandparent's rights. You need to contact a lawyer and see what the laws are in your state. What about your son? Is he still in the picture?
2006-11-24 12:58:15 · answer #7 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What did you do to piss them off?
Not all states have grandparents rights, so you'll have to look into that. I know my state doesn't, because my grandma missed out on much of my life because of her actions. Maybe you should start by apologizing for whatever it was you did. She may be receptive.
Good luck.
2006-11-24 13:19:32 · answer #8 · answered by Jessie P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to your daughter in law and tell her how you feel and that you would really like to see them at Christmas offer to come to her house if necessary tell her that they are very important to you and you want them to know how much you love them
2006-11-24 12:58:30 · answer #9 · answered by nickieandsarahsmommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds extreme but you could go to court. Grandparents have rights. Of course, try to reason with her first. If need be, talk to your son. Reason with him. If all else fails, you might have to resort to the extreme. Good luck :)
2006-11-24 12:56:29 · answer #10 · answered by ~Anna~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋