What do men really?

Question

What do men really think when a girl puts out on the first date?
Is it not just old fashioned now to make him wait, or do you genuinely have more respect for her if she does?

I'm interested to hear all opinions

Answer 1

I just dont care what men want as long as I am happy x

Answer 2

If you put out on a first date then most men will lose interest in you but maybe not respect. Now there is a difference between a one night stand and a date. I think the respect issue should be yours. A man should have to earn being with you like that... Treat you well, take the time to learn about you just like you take the time to learn about him... it is called dating. I can't think of anything more exciting than the realization that you are in a relationship that is going somewhere and you can feel the attraction between the two of you growing... that is when the combination of romance, love, and even a little lust really sends you over the top. You should let that grow... Not always of course, but most of the time early, casual, sex in a relationship ruins what might have been. It is not old fashioned to make a guy wait... you are trying to decide if he is right for you too.

Answer 3

I don't think that really comes in to the question of what a guy thinks of a woman in that respect anymore, I have been on dates where we have ended up in the sack, and I most certainly did not think any less of her because of it,
I also think it is a bit old fashioned to have to feel you have to wait until you can rip each others clothes off, but I do think its all down to how you feel at the time, and as long as there's a mutual respect going on, why not!
love n light xx x

Answer 4

I know mroe then one guy who married girls who put out ... well not really even on a date.

I don't know how I would have handled it when I was younger. Now, I'd be pleased. Respect my ***. I'll respect her for who she is, and what she does with her life. If she wants sex as much as me, that's a plus, not a minus.

I think young guys still have the fantasy that they will find a good pure innocent girl who will turn into a compliant yet voracious sex fiend once they get married. That may have happened occasionally in the past, and still may in religious communities, but for many of us ... I'd rather have a girl who's slept around then a girl with a low sex drive.

Answer 5

The answer to this question depends entirely on what men want. If they are looking for a romantic partner then chances are putting out will be viewed as lacking in value therefore not good in the long term.

If however, there is no long term intent then it doesn't matter and you can both enjoy the relaxed unattached relationship without stress.

Answer 6

Men are happy 2 ways belly full and balls empty as long as it is consensual between the 2 and the girl is not pressured it is ok having sex on the first date should not be a requirement but if the 2 are game cool go for it

Answer 7

if you are going to put out on the first date he may or may not like it based on two conditions. first one if you have sex and don't put any effort into he's going to be turned off by your right away. now second if you decide to put out then you must do it right and please him as best you can and do what ever he asks of you, then you will have him for good and he will respect.

now if you decide not to put out at all and make him wait and wait and wait he will get frustrated and lose respect for you. if you just make him wait 2 or 3 dates and then make it worthwhile for him (really good sex) that is where you will recieve the most respect and affection. let him sweat it for a couple of dates then give him everything he desires(you need to ask what he likes and let him know you'll do whatever he asks).

Answer 8

If sex means something special in a relationship, why would anyone want to just share it round willy nilly. If you have sex with someone on your first date then I think your not valuing your self. And also you put your self at risk. I notice in your question that you are asking what the man thinks all the time. BOG TO THE MAN you put your self first. Your body is the only one your ever going to have, so keep it safe. And keep your emotions safe, I expect there are plenty of men that will be glad about this culture of first date sex, but I BET there are loads who want a person to value them selves. PLEASE LOOK AFTER YOUR SELF X

Answer 9

Don't deliberately set out to deny yourself what you might want to do when the time comes. Why do that to yourself either. I have experienced both and honestly it didn't matter whether it was 1st night or 5 months down the line that we got in the saddle, it didn't effect the long term nature of the relationships because they didn't succeed or fail on sex (well except 1 but I digress) no they were decided by personality alone
Do what you feel on the night. Under no circumstances pre-plan

Answer 10

i am a girl but i know that making them wait is just the answer...not for just any guy though. if you really like him and he really like you back then he will know that you are not easy to get and he should respect that. If he doesn't then he is not the guy for you.
i once dated a guy who asked me at least once a week to do something with him. Every time i said no it made him want me even more. we went ot for almost seven months before i ended the relationship. He wanted to propose. i help this helped you out!

Answer 11

I think that it's ok to put out on the first date, just make him wait a while before You play the pink oboe.