I feel like I made the wrong move...why?

Question

I wrote in an email to this guy that I'd been seeing for awhile that I have weight issues(diet pills). He knows I used to model, so he should understand that I could fall victim to this type of behavior. But we were both non-commital types in a way because we never opened up are deepest secret to one another. Now that I have, I feel like it could be a step backward in our relationship. Will he be worried that I'm not stable now, even though I showed that I was all along? I had to email him because he just recently moved away for a job, but still wants to keep in contact. He also said before he left that if I ever needed someone to talk to that I could call him. But I'm thinking he wouldn't expect this. I told him to tell me when a good time would be for me to see him in person or on the phone? Will he eventually want to help me or will he think it's out of his hands?

Was it good move to make him feel like I trust him? Does that make a guy feel good?

Answer 1

i think that what you did , did set him off balance but don't worry he know it must be hard for u to tell him. so he will hopefully tell you some dark secrets of his own. but on the other hand this does really help a relationship in my opinion.

Answer 2

I personally do not think it will make him fee goo? However if he really cares about you, he would want to find out more details and eventually try to find help for you.

I am however concerned about the distant relationship- you never mention if he had moved to another state or just a train-ride away.

Which ever distant it is, i do hope that your relationship with this guy works out.

All the best!!!!

Answer 3

Hes starting over in a new area with a new job , I think your email is the last thing on his mind. You will stay in contact for a little while than slowley drift apart .....move on with your life and don't share anything

Answer 4

As long as you stated you showed trust and that you confided in him somewhere in the e-mail. And it depends on the guy, some like to help some do not. But honestly it is not his problem to fix it is yours, I have found alot of men like stronger women in those scenario's. But you being you is one thing, so just be you and do not do things with the intentions that he will fix it but for the sincerity you would like his help.It's all in how you approach it! I wish you luck.

Answer 5

The very first thing that you both need is honesty. You need to be honest with each other because that is how to make long distance last. Secondly, you need to confront him about the issue of if he's ok with that and ask him how he feels about what is going on. He is your best source rather than jumping to conclusions or asking yourself them. =]

Answer 6

Don't take it personally.
Most men cannot handle/can't understand/get frightened by --
the DETAIL that women cover in their talk and their lives.
It upsets them, because they like things simple.
Forget about him for a while.
If he calls, if he e-mails, then answer.

Answer 7

You did what you did out of trust. You opened up to him. If he doesn't appreciate that than he's the one with the problem.

Answer 8

personally sometimes honesty is the best, but I would be careful in divulging to much info somethings are better left alone.
We are women and things we do sometimes are never understood. but there is always methods to our madness.

Answer 9

ul know when he reacts to the mail

but honestly its a good move accordin to me, honesty anways helps